Pam,
You going straight on with the issues confronting DB; his outbursts; his little innuendos deliberately causing you to wonder what he means....did he or didn't he? It's apparently his way of not denying or admitting. You are the woman who chased down, what apparently could have been a terrible incident at work, causing you not to even think for a moment what this could all mean to you physically and mentally. Yes; DB said this was irresponsible, etc., etc., but because you are that woman, you are still there tackling what for many would be almost impossible to deal with. He, hopefully, prayerfully, will one day realize how fortunate he is to be married to "that woman".

Gerry

Anniversary
 

Celebrated our 24th wedding anniversary yesterday. We laughed, who would have imagined us in a restaurant with only a Japanese sushi train offering delightful temptations to delve into while drinking tea. We had a really lovely sober day.

Pamela, that is really great :)!

Pam,
Congratulations to both of you on celebrating 24 years of marriage.

The 25th will be time for a really"big" celebration; with of course tea or coffee and a lovely anniversary cake for desert.


Gerry

Pam,

I have not been on here in quite some time, but I just wasted to congratulate the two of you on your 24th a few days late.

Xmas leave approved
 

DB has had his leave approved and will go home to see his dad for Xmas and NY. I'm really pleased he has this chance. His dad is 75 with Parkinsons and had his right leg amputated at knee stump 23 years ago. Seems like a lifetime, he never complains. I will stay home as I'm not well enough to fly, and it means the pets aren't disrupted. We went to our friends 30th wedding anniversary party on Saturday. Held in a pub and DB handled it really well. The leg he injured weeks ago may need surgery, has a 7cm tear in the calf with an 8cm hematoma, has to see an ortho surgeon next week, that coupled with learning he needs hearing aids and injuring his shoulder again on Friday has made for challenging days and yet he has handled it well. 270 days since his last drink and 402 since a bender. I'm hopeful he will have everything resolved before Dec 16 particularly getting the hearing aids, I think it will make a huge difference to his confidence and he agrees, apparently he has been deaf in one ear for a very long time, maybe even since childhood.

Pamela, that is all excellent news :).

It sounds to me that DB is doing a great job in dealing with his various health problems.

Pam,
Good news about DB getting leave to visit with his dad plus he obviously was really tested going to a party in a pub. Pray he continues with counting days added to the ones he has already accomplished. Your support has really been key to his wanting to remain sober.

Pam, I don recall your mentioning before how DB's tear in the leg and injury to the shoulder occurred??? I wish I could mention a hearing aid to my husband; but his ego would be very upset if I suggested it.

Gerry

Hi Pam,
Congratulations on your anniversary(a bit late:o).
We have our 25th anniversary this month.

It is so great to read all the happy posts about DB's successes with his sobriety journey. You have both surmounted so many obstacles in the past few years, it is rather remarkable. Just wanted to say how happy I am for you both.
My best,
D.

No surgery
 

Good news, no surgery to the leg required, the hearing aids are ordered and will arrive on the 20th October. They are only a cool $10,000 after medical insurance rebate and discounts... Came as quite a shock I can tell you! $15-20k outlay on the teeth and we haven't booked his flights home yet. It's a good thing I went back to work and we aren't drinking.