Still feel no better this morning myself, but DB is doing well.

DB has always thrived on helping others, being the person to turn to for advice & our young lodger seems to be helping him considerably with rebuilding of his confidence and finding the will to do things around the home which have sat there unattended to for eons. He doesn't sugar coat his history, he tells about the stupid things he's done, the anger, the obliteration. Yesterday they got stuck into prepping & oiling the deck. She said the day before she would help him, they both woke early & as is DB want, he'll talk about it for an hour, have a cuppa, fall asleep and the day will pass him bye. Yesterday he was aware by 9am she was hanging around ready to get going so he changed up a gear, got his tush outside and they started the work. He said what motivated him was he could see she was really wanting to get the jobs done so when I come home from hospital there will be little for me to worry over. She even said I have to clean the house and he said, no it's ok you did it on Sunday, her answer was yes but AP will be home hopefully by Friday and I want everything clean for her.

Lodgers mum thanked DB for the positive influence she can see he is having on her daughter. She says she has had more real & meaningful conversations with her daughter since August 28th than she has had in years (28th day she moved in) & she can see how her daughter has grown within herself, the ability to handle conflict, the positive choices she seems to be making in life, seemingly more confident & not 2nd guessing everything she does. DB just said to her it's early days, so long as you know she's safe, not out on the street, won't go hungry or be taken advantage of & we will do our best to keep her emotionally stable.

The ex el creepo boss rang her last week and asked if she will do 2-3 days a week. Work is very hard to find atm, particularly for a young non apprenticed painter & decorator so she took him up on it but with some proper parameters in place. Ie starts at 7.30 works to 3.30 if he doesn't get there until 11 she is still paid from 7.30. Not to have her to use her phone and credit to contact his clients & then tell her off for using her phone. Not to go off at her because she doesn't feel like eating lunch, not to treat her like one of the boys and discuss things with her that would make a lady or lad of the night blush. DB said to lodgers mum, don't worry, he knows what I do for a job & now he knows she's living under our roof in her own wing he's not likely to try anything further with her.
One day at a time...