Blue, it is possible that the prescription drugs that your neighbour is on are interacting in a negative way with alcohol.

You could suggest to her that she checks out this site for such reported negative interactions.

Drugs.com | Prescription Drug Information, Interactions & Side Effects

Hi Kiwi ~ I am very worried that with everything she is on now (Welbutrin, Prozac, Baclifin and others she has not told me) will interact with alcohol.

She is extremely stubborn and now won't respond by answering her door, she just yells to go away. I did notice, however, today she was in and out with her car.

Thank you Kiwi for your link and information.

Blue

In the days since I posted this thread, I have done alot of soul searching. I see many members have viewed my post but only one responded, which I am grateful for, thank you Kiwi *smiles*.

Thru my own soul searching, I have come to accept that I cannot accept the behaviors of my neighbor. I realize now that her "alleged" return to drinking or showing these obvious behaviors, has led to my having to give up and walk away.

At first I felt the victim. Now I realize that she is a victim of her current circumstances.

I have forgiven her. I have accepted that this is all beyond my control and I cannot control how she responds to me. Now I have to work on forgiving myself.

By forgiving her, it has released me from the degree of loss with her. I can now protect myself from her raging and abusive nature. I can now feel safe again in my own environment and not feel threatened by her. I have given myself permission not to respond to her anymore.

So, it's up to her going forward to find a way thru this, without me.

Blue

I think that you have made a wise decision Blue.

My clinical psychologist once told me that it is not selfish to put my own needs first. Of course she was not saying that it is OK to be mean to other people (which you have not done as far as your neighbour is concerned).

She has made no effort to contact me. I was holding onto past threads in the hopes to have some message before my bankruptcy hearing, but nothing. At this point the money she lent me will be deducted from the emergency fare to get me to court. I hate to be this way. She sent a private donation for the care for my cat with no expectation for repayment. But out of the goodness of my heart I offered to pay her back.

Update:

Before I left this morning, I saw my neighbors car in the parking lot, when I got home, it was still there. She never went to work, it was just an excuse and she lied to me. I'm guessing she didn't care if I saw her car out there. I was hoping she would leave me a good luck note, but nope, not that either. So, there is something seriously wrong with her and I have to believe she's drinking again.

I am trying not to let this completely overwhelm me, seeing her car parked there and lying to me. Every day it's something she has done to be hurtful towards me. Now that my bankruptcy is done, there will be no further need to have any further contact with her.

Just wish I could find a way to help her but she has literally slammed the door in my face and is refusing help, so there is nothing more I can do.

Blue

As an alcoholic (8 years sober) the only I advice is I have to help the alcoholic is to not give up. They need help, they just don't know it yet. Don't be "in their face" but let them know that you will be there when they fall. Because, they will.