It's clear you care for your neighbor, and sadly, alcoholics are very good in taking advantage of that.


That doesn't mean you have to drop her entirely; she is not well, and yes, probably drinking again, while spending 110% of her mental energy to keep the plates spinning and avoid being caught or making fatal mistakes. An alcoholic in that state is infuriating, so it's OK to be angry and hurt by it all.



Just let her be for the time being; you can not change her ways, that has to come from (deep) inside her. She is pushing you away because she knows you know. And you have to protect your own safety and well-being. Keep in mind though that someone in this state doesn't mean it in a "personal" way to you: they are pulled down by their addiction. But... you don't have to accept it AND feel bad about it at the same time. You didn't make her this way, in fact, you were a good friend to her. So, for now, just keep your distance.



Consider being there for her when things really go south and/or get ugly. And that will happen, it always does. And by that time she will probably have ruined all relationships she has now. "Being there" means practical help, like calling an ambulance, or visiting her in hospital, or just talk smalltalk... Because in the end, it is an insidious condition, one you don't choose initially, and once it gets a hold on you, very very difficult to snap out of.



Never feel bad about caring, but know you can not force the change your neighbor needs. So don't feel bad about keeping your distance (for now) either. We owe it to ourselves to protect us. Empathy is a great thing, but it can be devastating when dealing with an addict, so be nice to yourself.