Wow, Christina.

I never would have thought of doing what you wrote.

How kind of you to explain this whole Soothing Egos to me.

I just passed their house and the wife and son were on the porch. We chatted briefly. I mentioned nothing. I haven't seen the guy for a few days.

So it's their private matter and I would never intrude.

But thanks so much.

If it DOES happen again, I shall do exactly what you wrote.

Thanks so much for the lesson.

I learn stuff every day on these boards.

Stay well.

Mel

I do believe that legally drunk, behind the wheel, car running or not is grounds for arrest.

I guess if you KNOW the person and want to help, if it was me I'd have pushed him over to passenger's side and got in and driven him home THEN leave the keys with his wife.

But that's just me. I always do the wrong thing and get crucified later for it.

Can't drive him home because he was parked right in front of his own house.

Can't drive him home BECAUSE I DON'T DRIVE!!!

And I completely understand you when you say "I always do the wrong thing and get crucifed later for it".

These kinds of scenarios always end up with hurt feelings, people being embarrassed and later on, they can't look you in the face and you wind up losing friendships. How sad when this happens.

But that's life.

We just have to look at each situation and try and do the right thing.

If this happens again, I know what to do.

Let's just hope it doesn't happen again.

Sigh!!!!

Yeah you said he was right by his house, otherwise if it was someone you didn't know then I'd of had you call the police. I'd still have taken the keys though while he was snoozing just to keep him from driving off, then called the police. Wouldn't stand next to the car though and announce hey I got your keys if he wakes up. Nothing worse than an angry drunk. Just stand back and enjoy the perplexed search as he wakes and attempts to figure out where his keys are as the police are on their way. Then when they arrive I would give the keys to them and skedaddle. Gee is that how you spell that lol.

A nights entertainment though it is terribly sad.

Yea Skeedaddle.

These kinds of situations are difficult. Someone is ALWAYS the badguy. You just can't win. But if enough things like this happen and he has to pay the consequenses of his behaviour THEN and only then will he begin to think about the negative effect all this Boozing is causing. Something that touches him a a certain way will turn him around but we never know which thing that is until it happens. It could be something very minor but very basic.

Not me, I would have walked by butt up to the door and calmly told them their loved one is in the car and can't wake up. Simple and to the point. I wouldn't offer that he's drunk or anything else. Just a simple nudge to go get their loved one. Many times once they realize someone else has seen the situation, they will work hard to rectify it.

If they ignored me, then I would have called 911 after I snatched the keys. I don't play with drunk drivers. Nope, not when someone could be killed. If they hate me, oh well, deal with it.

I honestly don't like to get into someone else's business but when it would affect others in a negative way I will. I guess growing up with alcoholics tainted me.

I don't know, how many times have you seen the guy pulled over for drunk driving, no license because it was taken away for drunk driving, some of these guys never learn.

Not long ago I watched a video of some police officers pulling over a guy only to find out he was another officer off duty and higher up the food chain and this was not his first time. He begged them to let him off, it took them over an hour and another commanding officer to make the decision to let him go. The low man on the totem pole didn't want to. But that's how it works.

That's true too Sandy, course you hope that next time he doesn't pull into the garage and pass out with the car running in the hopes that the neighbors don't see him.

Hard call. Everybody reacts differently, most will do nothing at all but whisper to their neighbors about it.

I saw that too. Cops shouldn't be above the law,they should know better than to drive after they have been drinking. I guess with cops it's not what you DO it's WHO you know.