Hi Theresa

((((((((((((Big hugs for you...and for your mum)))))))))))))))


I am so very sorry about the way things are turning out for you all - I guess the bottom line, as you have said, is that you still have her with you - you just need to get to know and love the 'new' her.

I am sure that this will happen - it will just take time, time to grieve and adjust - for everyone (including her). From what you are saying, I strongly suspect she is aware of the changes/differences she has experienced, and is probably very conscious of it. Have you talked to her about this? Has she had any grief counselling - for that matter, have you?

I know that when I was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis (three years before my aneurysm surgery - which is both life-long and degenerative) I was devastated with grief, doubt and foreboding - like I was a broken toy left on the shelf, and no good for anything anymore. I was torn up with grief, self-doubt and self-loathing.

This is just something to consider - I can't imagine how hard this is for all of you, and I certainly don't say that 'I know how you (or your mum) feel.

Please just know that my thoughts and care are with you all.

Lyn
xox