as you know i had a ruptured sub annie hem,
does that mean i will be at risk of having another,
this stresse's me cause i know my dad aint got long to go, he has cancer and it's terminal, i a very scared although i put on a front.
is it a year before your in the clear or is that just hear say
any help on explaining this would be so good for me. ( i think)

thanx

Hi there

I can feel your fear and anxiety in your post. Not that I blame you, have been through an awful experience and are facing a stressful, heartbreaking time in other areas.

From the information I have read, once you have had one aneurysm you are about twenty percent more likely than the rest of the general population to develop another one. I know that sounds high, but when you consider that that statistic is based on the whole population it is not as bad as it sounds. Also, now that you have had one of them, I would imagine that you will be monitored just in case.

I'm really sorry to hear about your dad as well. I lost my mum to cancer and it is so cruel. I found it incredibly hard to grieve for a person that was still alive and the fear, stress, pain and the feeling of helplessness was overpowering. Have you got a support network to help you to cope?

I can't help but think it would be good for you to talk to a doctor about your aneurysm fears and get some advice.

Please take care, and keep us posted.

Lyn

I'm sorry that I don't have an answer to your question, but I feel your anxiety.

Sending you some hugs to hopefully help you feel better.

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hi lyn

thank you for your reply,
dad was poorly today and i am hoping it's just the side affects from the radio thearapy, as they had to blast through his intestines to get to the lower spine.
No i have not yet approached any one regards to support but have the doctors in the morning so if i can pluck up the courage i will ask about it, i aint very good at asking for help, hence joining this, i feel so silly that maybe doctors have already explained to me exactly what happened in theartre, how big the annie was ect, but i can't remember and it is frustrating,
and i was asked if i wanted a social worker to come see me when discharged from hospital, i refused thinking i could do it all myself, how silly was i???
thankyou for your kind words and wisdom ,

robi

Hi Robi

Great to meet you properly. Is there someone you can take to doctor's appointments to help you to remember the information you are getting? I would like to think that it is not too late to make arrangements to see a social worker - do you have a local community health centre, or a trusted GP (or PCP depending on where you are from)? It is always useful to have someone to talk to when things are tough like this.

You know what? Big deal if your doctor has already told you about your surgery, you have been through an incredible ordeal and forgetting information is part of the condition. So in other words, you are allowed to forget stuff and it is their responsibility to give you information.

Asking for help is not a weakness either - anyone, no matter how strong needs a hand up sometimes, and for you, this is your time. Ask for help and you may be surprised wih the reaction you get.

All the best and know that I am thinking of you

Regards

Lyn