Thank you for your reply. You have some good points but its hard to walk away from somone even though they can't love you. He has never been married but says he wants to more than anything but just can't seem to get his problems worked out. He is so any and hateful when he's sober but inside he is a good person. Maybe ond day he will come back to me with a better handle on all his issues. He says he has to get better on his own in his way. I can understand this but why can't we even be friends. Everytime I get near him hecant keep away from me. If I stay with him he is callin me in 3 days telling me I cause him so much pain and anxiety. We have laughed and danced and cooked and talked about his personal problems I am certain he doesnt share with anyone else. he has a guilt and shame issue after we spend time together especially if its intimate and loving.