Thank you, Sweets. Now his behavior is mostly inappropriate at work: he used to be much angrier (breaking furniture, calling names at home, yelling at work, exploding), but I insisted we go to couples counseling or we'd be over. I see so much growth, but sadly, some people at our new place of employment have taken offense at his jokes and language. He resists counseling strongly. Did your brother get counseling? Did he resist? What finally convinced him?

Thank you for your reply. It's a comfort to have others to talk to. So few people understand.