I just wanted to post and say I asked to have the title of this thread changed because it's true! His aggression is almost gone! It's amazing what a difference school makes for him. I am much happier now with having the break that school provides and so is he. We go to the dr on tuesday and I hope to have good things to report back about. Like more weight loss.

That's very good news, Pamster. I did a double take when I read the thread title lol. All the very best for your Tuesday appointment.

Thanks Lara! I am so happy things are better I just had to ask someone to edit the title for me since it's no longer applicable and I got tired of seeing it sitting there on the front page, though the face still applies because it's amazing it's almost gone.

Acceptance is a killer. My son is 20 and he is on 4 types of medication.

Through the aggression period and the acceptance that I have to give him all these medications I sometimes feared for my life.

Now, full of acceptance I have learnt mainly 2 things. Aggression (even tho on medication) gets worst if:

1. his hormones rise and he longs to have sex (unfortunately or fortunately he does not get any sex )

2. he has a new physical illness that needs to be diagnosed and solved.

For sure allergies is one that sneak up a lot.

I understand where you're coming from NowIsAll. I have felt afraid for my life too from the aggression. My son used a broomstick one time and one time he clocked me on the side of the head when I didn't see it coming. I often wonder what kind of a future he's going to have, if he will ever experience Love, and I have to hodl on to the hope that he will, that out there is someone a lovely young woman who will love being with him. I hang on to that hope and it's what gets me through each trying day.

I wish you well with getting your son's new illness dx'd. I know that can sometimes be very hard to get an accurate dx because of the non-verbal, and the inability to express pain and show you where it hurts. I hope that the dr is able to determine what treatment he needs and get it started. My son takes singular for allergies and it's helping him a lot.

Since this is the first time I've seen you NowIsAll, I want to welcome you to the autism forum on NT. Nice to have you here.

Pamster,
Thanks for your welcome.

Unfortunately, my son will not be getting any proper help from most of the doctors I have to deal with, as they think I should sit back and let them treat him like "nothing".

I have accepted the fact that I am up against a wall when it comes to getting better care.

In a nutshell, most of the doctors and the nurses I have to deal with believe that if they do not talk to me I will eventually break and accept whatever they offer.

I have not broken. One certainty I hold on to is "Vengence is mine sayeth the Lord"

Right now he is fairly well and I am trying my best to make each day the best for the two of us (minus the horrid medical care and unreasonable people we sometimes have to make contact with)

Thanks to this website, I am better able to manage.

I am so sorry that your medical professionals are not giving you any coping tools, I can relate because we have a behavior analyst and have been seeing one since july of last year and he doesn't really know what to tell us to do to help my son's ability to handle those aggressive impulses he gets all the time. It's very frustrating, it makes me want to give up on the behavior intervention because it's just not really helping. You'd think after six months things might have gotten better. While things have gotten better I attribute that to my husband's efforts and those of myself to help our son learn some rules.

They are:
1. no hitting
2. no kicking
3. no biting
4. no scratching
5. no yelling

He can repeat them and I am sure he knows what they mean, he just doesn't always remember to follow them. I am glad you joined us NowIsAll. I get a lot of comfort from knowing I'm not facing things alone, and that I have friends here and elsewhere who support me through thick and thin like I aim to support them in return. It's a great thing to have message boards to chat on.