so you have decided to go for it... cool! good luck then!!!

i'm gonna keep my fingers crossed for ya.

~ waves ~

Barb

We own rentals, and I would definately ask about the A/C unit. But I would
also check around at some of the agencies that do things for low income people. In our area if you have certain conditions you can get a air conditioner.

Also this last summer and now this coming year. A tv channel is doing a program for A/C and heating. Someone has to submit the persons name.

Donna

Bobby came to town today without my knowledge of it until I called him at 9 tonight. When I asked him if if I could see him tomorrow he said he'd be in Hanks at 4. I told him that I am not going in there at that time cause of the 2 people in there that hurt my feelings. Then I asked him if he went in there today and he said yes. I could tell he was ashamed to tell me he did. He said he would call me tomorrow. I called him back after having a beer and he said he was kind of sleeping so I kept it short. I told him that him and I need to talk tomorrow. Bobby went to Hanks to see the very people who have causes me more grief than anything. Bobby didn't even make an effort to see me today when he got into town but yet he went to Hanks.

I am going to tell him that if he wants to see me he's going to have to come to my place and pick me up and take me somewhere or else it's over between him and I. I'm done with all the drama with him.

Maybe he doesn't know what he wants out of life yet...
some people never do figure it out...

I hope you can talk with him and work out what kind of relationship you are having with him.

1. just friends only
2. or working into special friendship
3. possible romantic relationship

You can't control him you can only control yourself.
He is doing what he has always been doing visitng making nice with people trying to have fun...he is not doing this to intentionally hurt you.
please don't take this personally. You may not go there now but can not ask him to not go there, these are his friends and you are trying to control him.
maybe I am seeing this wrong....
bizi

Barb

Make some new friends. And try to hang in there. I hate to see you
ruin your friendship with Bobby because he wont do exactly what
you think he should.

Please watch what you do. If its a friendship you want to keep, give
him a little room.

Donna

Dear Barbara,
It makes sense to me that you speak clearly about what you need and what you want.

But he might not go along with your needs.

That's ok. At least you are doing what is right for you.
(Both of you are free to make choices.)

M.

Thank you all. I wrote this letter to give to him tomorrow.


October 15, 2009


Bobby:

I am very hurt because instead of letting me know you were in town and asking to see me you went into Hanks. I also am hurt that you would ask me to meet you in there knowing how Elizabeth and Nancy have done me. I am also hurt that instead of you picking up my medicine the day I went to the hospital you went into Hanks instead. Elizabeth told me you were in there. I didn’t believe her because she had been rather mean to me for the past month and I couldn’t believe you would do that to me. Now I believe it. I’ve caught you in lies before and that hurt me. Why would you give me your Post Office Box address if you don’t get personal mail? You only said that because you didn’t want for me to know you read that letter against my wishes. I am hurt that after all this time you would even still ask me to meet you in Hanks. It doesn’t look like you respect me enough to come to my place and pick me up and take me somewhere.

I am really hurt Bobby and it’s got to either change or come to an end. I thought I meant more to you and I really feel let down. I feel like such a fool but I will learn from this experience for sure. I don’t want you getting mad at me as I have every right to feel this way. I do not want to be 2nd to the people in Hanks which are what it looks like I am by your actions. I am not going to be a fool any longer so that is why I say things will have to change or that’s the end with us. I can not accept you the way things are going at the moment with us. I like you a lot and it hurts when I’m treated like I’m nothing to you.

barbara

Dear Barbara,

'Sending hugs.
It sounds like you have a lot of hurt about this.
M.

Thanks. I do have a lot of hurt about this. I should see him in a couple of hours to give him the letter.

befuddled2