thinking this lunch is not a good idea
 

Hi,

I asked for some help from my team about what to say. They emailed me some stuff. Probably only a dozen people will be at the lunch but the whole thing is making me upset and anxious.


WHAT WAS I THINKING to agree to this? The colleague that organized the lunch and then asked me to participate is well intentioned but clueless. I'm going to call him tomorrow and figure out a way out of this.

I can't talk in front of people.
I cannot be in the same room with my boss.
I can't sit through a whole lunch while we say good-bye to these people.


This summer really stinks.
Most summers I get a break.
This summer -- not a break.

M.

do what your gut tells you to do.
use your intuition.
don't do something that will make you sick.
listen to yourself.
follow your inner guide.
((((HUGS))))
bizi

Mari

You just aren't getting a break.

But you are a sweetheart. So do what your heart tells you to.

Donna

yes Mari

if you are not up for this don't make yourself go through with it. someone else can speak. the person who had this brilliant idea has a mouth on them, let them use it. do not put your sanity on the line over what is essentially a work-lunch.

~ waves ~

don't offer any explanations...just say i can't do it.
bobby

I'm still thinking about going.
'Maybe take a little Klonopin. Arrive late. Leave early.
I don't know.

M.

luncheon went fine
 

Hi,
I arrived on time and left early. Last night I told the colleague running the lunch that I had to leave early. He said ok.
My friend who "retired" asked me to sit with her.

The restaurant was noisy and the table configuration was wrong so no one could hear my 1.5 minute speech. That's ok.

People came dressed up and in a mood to be nice.
We all took lots of pictures.
Then I left without having to eat (the others' food was starting to arrive when I left).

And my speech went well. I had practiced pronouncing it.
If anyone had heard what I said, they would have heard me speak clearly.

M.

Dear Mari

i am glad things went smoothly for you at the luncheon! :) well done!

and you practiced the speech... wowww! i'm hoping more people heard it than you think. ;) seems like it was worth hearing! :)

~ waves ~

Dear Mari

Bravo!!!!!


You are back to the Mari I first met here. In so many ways. You
just don't realize it. I have a hard time speaking in front of people.

But I can tell you Mari, I use you as my mentor many times now,
to make it through my speaking times.

I can say I have come a long way. And I really have the fact that
you work so hard to speak after the speech problems.
To say that I am a better speaker.


Thank you for being my inspiration!!!!!!!

Donna

i just reread my post and i guess it didn't come out right. :( sorry.

and i don't even know how to say what i wanted to say but what i did say i guess sounds weird. at least it does not sound like what i meant. sigh.

~ waves ~

I loved the way Donna said it dear Mari, so, I will second that... here is another BRAVO !!! for you :hug:

So glad to hear you had no trouble.

Let me joing the "I hate to talk in public" group... ugh :o

:grouphug:

One of my good colleagues quit with no new job in place. He can't stand the admin.
 

Hi.

I've been on phone and email for two days trying to help / prod my big boss with hiring his replacement and the the replacements for the others that retired or got fired back in may.
I'm also trying to calm who is is left.

I will have much more work AND different work starting in August due to this colleague's leaving.


I am trying to rethink what I have to do in the next four weeks so that I am ready for this extra work when school starts.

I'm going through a med change that needs to work: just went up from 75 to 100 mg. Next I will go to 150.

M.

I am so sorry. Isn't there anybody else who can take on the extra responsibility? Why does it always have to be you? Please take care of yourself.
bobby

Mari

Let us know how we can help you.

Sending you hugs.

Donna:grouphug:

oh gosh Mari, i'm sorry.

i'm here too, if there's anything i can do...

i wish you could have a new, pleasant, competent boss that wouldn't fire people and cause people to quit like this.... sigh.

~ waves ~

NOOOOO :(
I am sorry.
bizi
((((HUGSSS)))))

I'm sad.
The person who left this week, will create a big hole.
I think that when school starts we will feel a great loss with his not being with us.
M.

I am so sorry this had to happen. Please try not to take on extra responsibility...your load is already way too much.
bobby

Mari

I have one other thought on this.

If some of the things that the people that are leaving were doing are things
you would like to do. Then please find a way to add them to do.

But at the same time, with new people coming on. Or at least I hope at
least one is. Give some of the things you don't enjoy to them.

Make this a thing were you are moving more to what you want to do.

Donna:grouphug:

Can I scream?
 

Donna,
So far that is not working.
I was given the task of screening applicants for three positions -- lots of phone and email work. And it is hard talking to those people because some are eager, some are annoying, . . . .
. . . .my heart is broken over my old colleagues.
Yesterday and today I took a rest from returning / making calls.
I'll get back to the phone when I am awake and alert and polite (HA!!)-- sometime in the future. I'm going to forget about making calls until I am ready to deal with people again.

I've spent all evening copying and emailing files that the retired person left on her jump drive. One of the guys still here needs it right now yesterday apparently.
Everything on the jump drive is mixed up and messy and I can't keep track of file names.
=-=-=-=-=-

I am going to call my orthodontist's office tomorrow and throw a fit.
I want the braces off. I am going to tell them I have huge anxiety from those things (true).

One partner in the practice told me 2 months they are coming off. He's the partner who has been working with my mouth all along. Then the snotty partner showed up for my last two visits for no reason. The way she is doing things, the braces could be on forever.

M.

Mari

I can totally understand that. I hope things start to look up.

I am thinking of you.

donna

do i ever give you permission to scream. is there a way you can just drop out of your appointed position. it sounds like just too much...way too much...aren't there anybody else on the staff that can handle this? Who is the designator? The only positive is that you can get to chose somebody who you think you might like and might be a good worker.
Good luck with your teeth
Bobby

Yes, I am phasing myself out of my position.
The guy who was going through cancer treatments for almost a year sounds strong now and ready to step up to the plate.
I pray for him to stay strong because I need him -- I hope that this does not sound selfish.

M.

how in the world could you think that sounds selfish. that sounds so healthy.
how much can you carry? you are not a machine but a person with feelings and limitations.
Bobby