Tough week, I am still fighting things with legal issues. This week the ex, has accused me of negligence in my dd care; that I abused her and my parenting skills for her needs were abusive, down to the medication.

My attorney wants me to find anyone I can to contridict this accusation. I quess when these people are the scum of the earth, the best they can do is try to discredit me.

My blood pressure is up, my chest pains worse, and I cry all the time missing her; NOW this hurtful accusation. He and the enabler he is married to don't want to stop at me losing my home from litigation, or another child from denying their medical care, they want me to lose my health or life....
They never wanted one iota to do with her, to help, to care for her, call or visit but boy greed and blood money.

I hurt my low back, cleaning out her home, real bad, I have so much pain.
My son took a fall trying to help me and fell on his face, he was knocked out; head and side took the impact, so much pain in his back, and no insurance.
He hurt his wrist but back pain is what it typically is, thank heaven. We both spoke of the home being cursed......If I had the money I would have helped with the downpayment for a home, he would not have to worry about the home being brought up to perfect so his ex would not make another call to the abuse line with a lack of funds to pay anyone for the repairs and fixes, three disabled people are trying to do what we can....

Why is it the kindest people in life are attacked and taken advantage of....

I have two choices get a set of ba!!s back, or crawl in a corner and have a heart attack. I will not fall apart, but I do want him to hurt, and lose and then get all my cost back....and LIFE.

I love my family and I thought that honesty and truth prevailed, that the legal things win from truth.........We were just beginning to heal, to create new memories last year.

I don't know where to start to find the people in our life that knew what kind of person as a parent I am. My immediate family, the doctors, her attorney, ?????I need a list, and then try to contact them. DH said all I had to do was hit the send mail for all the organizations that I belong to that walked life with me and I would not have a room big enough to hold them all.

I just wish all this would not be real and I could hold her.
The ex's last words to our son when he confronted his father to why he is doing this....were get the he@@ out, and never come back again.
He is also disabled with seizures and cardiac, I take 100% care if him, but his pocket money working 2@4 hrs a week.......
Anyone have a voodoo doll?
A heartbroken mom......
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Dear Di,

i am so sad for you. sending thoughts and prayers for you.

it is not fair you have to deal with this. unfortunately i have seen these kinds of situations... people get stepped on and then they get made out to be the "bad guys" ... broken, badly broken families. fathers who claim betrayal by their kids, and ostracize them for "ratting them out to mom" - regarding their level of luxury living (when the child and mom is barely scraping by on minimal child support.)

a friend of mine in a divorce case... her husband accused her of breaking and entering, theft of financial documents... and later turned out to be cheating on the disposition of his actual funds... crazy stuff.

this is a good list to start with. expand it into names and numbers/emails. write a letter that is general enough for everyone and then send it.

excellent suggestion!

you have resources, Di. you can beat this.

emmm... they're not that hard to make you need something physical from the person it is to represent... like hair for instance.

i hope your son feels better soon re his injuries. what a scumbag your ex is to talk to him that way, must hurt to be liquidated so viciously by a parent.



~ waves ~

Waves has good suggestions for you!

I am so sorry that you are having to deal with this scum bag....
You are the kindest most hard working mom that I know. It breaks my heart to hear this and to know that you are suffering.
I know that you are grieving so....
hugs to you tonight my dear
(((((HUGS)))))
bizi

Dear Donna,
Bring a priest or holy man (woman) to the house for a blessing.

Remember your relaxation techniques that you once explained to me. You can do this.

He is a very very very small man.
You have strength and goodness. Remember that.

M.

DiMarie

I also wonder if we here on NeuroTalk can look through the threads
you have started and find proof too.

I remember some of the words you have posted showing the love
for your DI. I think it might help. I also remember the despair
showing there is nothing you could do to help her.

I am not one that can search usually and find. But I'm willing
to try if others agree its a good idea.

I also think the places that treated her, are places to go get the
records that show what were tried.

Donna

All the ideas make it a way for me to list and think clearer.
On one hand I refuse to have him abuse me again...on the other it makes me relive the memories. of De and his abuse....

If I grab the medical records that should be a start, and the search. also all the places I took her for help,
So short time to work......
hugs all
di

Dear Di,
I hope that you come through this ok.
M.

My sweet very dear and wise friend...

I wish I could give you a bear hug right now after reading your touching post... Thanks for sharing with us your feelings.

I like Donna's idea !! Your posts always show how much you loved De ! it is a big stupidity from that !"·$%""$&/()=! to say what he is saying

Breathe sweet friend... this, like everything in life will be over soon, and, I still believe in justice, specially in divine justice, and Im sure everything will be alright !

You are so sweet and caring with everybody, and you dont deserve all this pathetic experince... But we are praying and thinking about you and I really hope life calms for you soon !!!

I love you !

Let me know if there is any way I can help !

hugs to you dear di.
(((((HUGS))))
bizi

Dear Di

how did things go this week?

been sending you good thoughts...

~ waves ~