N - I WROTE YOU A NICE POST LAST EVENING AND - POOF - IT WAS GONE! So I'll try again It sounds like you mmade that decision, and you really need to stick to your guns no matter how much she says she's sorry, or beg and pleads with you. I know it'll be tough on both of you, but you have to do this for YOU MENTAL AND PHYSICAL HEALTH! You can't be playing constant nursemaid, etc, etc, espeically when there is rarely any gratitude and, in fact, you get b*tched at constantly!

You probably would have done this sooner, but she was sick, and you were going thru alot with Mr X. Now it's time for YOU! ! ! You need to get yourself back into good health all around, so that you can try to live 'the best life' that you can! Gosh, I sure wish I could come visit you in AZ - that would be nifty!

Take care of YOU now - you know you deserve it, and it's about time!

Gentle hugs, Jacquie

Nikko

I think you are making a good decision. I sure wish I could help.

But don't have a clue how. But I'll be here to help in any way I can.

Donna

I also think you are making a great decision. Have you looked into housing for the disabled? The rents are according to income so you wouldn't have to pay much. I had such a painful time with my toxic mother and I almost didn't go to her funeral. I am pretty certain if I hadn't gone, I wouldn't have cause for regret. I let her manipulate me. My psychiatrist said after I described a lot of incidents that both my parents were sadistic to me. NO WAY DID I DO ALL THAT YOU HAVE DONE FOR YOUR MOTHER. I still can't imagine how you have put up with it this long. I am so sorry you have to deal with so much pain.
I think you are such a wonderful person and deserve happiness and shouldn't allow anyone, except for maybe your dogs which they wouldn't do anyways. to walk all over you and dig your own grave.
Bobby