I no longer can be a caregiver to my mother. I have contacted the agency on aging. My mom has stopped PT, saying she can't go to her DR appts.
She said she can stay here and have someone come in and take care of her better than I do. FINE I said, then when I told her I called, she said she won't let anyone in or talk to them, she will take care of herself.

The last few nights, she screamed between 3am and 4am for a hour. She said Die you bastard Die, and a lot of other real bad things. She threatens to pee the bed. I get up I help her to the commode, then back to bed, then she screams for a pill, then she screams for something else. She told me to get out. I have no car, and she said she wants hers back, well duh, she can't drive. The car is sitting right outside. I also take care of that.

I found out this morning, she had been drinking (sneaking). She constantly is bringing up my soon to be ex husband, which is no good for me, nor has anything to do with her. Although, maybe he is nuts from her too. I sure can't blame him on that one.

She stays in bed all day long. I make meals, she wants them, then she doesn't. There is so much more. This is no longer healthy for me.

She can afford this 3 bedroom. I am going to have to move with my pets. Which isn't a problem here.
I have a call into one woman that wants to come and talk to my mom, about assisted living, or having someone come in to take care of her,which I know she already said NO WAY.

I do the house keeping, laundry, shopping, cooking, many little trips to the store for her, help her with her showers, take her where she wants to go hair, appt's, etc

I cannot lift her up, when she falls, I can't call 911 anymore or they will arrest me, since I called so many times when she fell and come to find out she had been drinking or not hurt but not understanding I cannot lift her. Even though she has many health issues, they don't care.

So, in a nut shell, since she isn't going to move, and we just resigned the lease for another year. I am going to have to get my name off it, her's goes on May 1st. She can afford it. I cannot alone. Plus she will not go into any type of facility. I have no POA except medical if she is incoherant.

Since I know that NOTHING this woman says will work. I will move, then I have to contact the STATE ADULT PROTECTION and they take over.

I guess I did the best I could, but I have no life, but a shitty one to say the least.

So, I will be out by May. I tried way to long.

Hugs, Nikko