Fiber
 

Bobby,

I made a record of the fiber I ate today / Tuesday:

~split pea soup, one can: 8
~two large apples peeled: 5
~rice wrap with cucumber and avocado: 2
~large sweet potato without skin: 6
~sauteed green beans and broccoli: 3

This is 22 grams. I took a guess on the apples because the apples were huge but peeled. This is not my usual day. The pea soup was a major contributor to the total.

Thanks for reminding me to think about fiber.

Mari

go going Mari
i realized that i don't drink enough water or have enough fiber. I might buy metimucil(sp).....I wish i could remember when this started happening to figure out what triggered it. I went on that high protein diet that warns about constipation and i don't know if it happened then. I am obsessed.
bobby

Dear Bobby,

It's not your fault. Sometimes our bodies require a delicate balance that gets a little off kilter. Then we set it back on track.

You are doing well asking questions here and re-analyzing what you eat / drink.


M

Dear Bobby,

how are you doing?

i want to wish you Happy Hanukkah personally. do you have any plans to share it with a friend, or go to a service, maybe the last night?

love

~ waves ~

thank you. I am really frightened. I have really been obsessing.
bobby

No plans...I am going in and out of depression. last night neighbor took me out to eat ...that was very nice. for lunch the senior center is having a holiday party. as i wrote I am obsessing. I am trying to let go and let God. that is the hardest thing for me to do. I am a control freak. a friend is really going through a hard time now so we spent a long time on the phone in silence.
love
bobby

Dear Bobby

oh i am happy that your neighbour took you out to dinner last night! :) did you enjoy it?

and there will be the holiday party too. when is that?

Christmas ended up really being a non-deal here this year in the end, which was ok with me. my parents have spent about 10 days freaking out about food and we are ending up eating pretty simple. meanwhile, i freaked out/labored over the calendar for the same duration, and didn't manage to print it! ... much ado about nothing. perhaps next year we can do the same, without the ado, eh? ;):rolleyes:

i am sorry for your friend. i have sat in silence with people before. sometimes when you are far apart, it is the only thing you can do. the open phone line means you are each listening, even if no-one speaks. it is meaningful.

there are many things i am afraid of lately. it is hard to let go and let God or anyone else... yet it is folly to try to pretend we have control, or can get it in any way. we can control only certain things. i encourage you to focus on things you can control. and not even big or important things which create pressure, and worry about consequences. i suggest you try focusing on small, day to day things, like whether you have chicken soup or lentil soup for dinner. that kind of thing. perhaps that can help express your need for control in ways that generate less anxiety. the rest is just torture... i know... :o

love you :heartthrob:

~ waves ~

Bobby,
Maybe try to let go over little things. Practice with those little things before you tackle big things.


Keep taking care.

M

tthank you for being so understanding. this constipation thingie has me so upset and i see the doctor next week. it is mushroomed into my being so scared of death. your advice is so good and i have tried to use it but failed.
i had a nice meal with my neighbor and a nice meal at the senior center. i had wine and that seemed to relax me.
I am sorry about the calendar. I am sorry about the meal. I am sorry about all the anxiety it may have generated. right now i am just too scared to feel anxiety. yesterday i didn't even turn on the computer or crawl out of bed except to feed the cats and eat.
love you
bobby


oh i am happy that your neighbour took you out to dinner last night! :) did you enjoy it?

and there will be the holiday party too. when is that?

Christmas ended up really being a non-deal here this year in the end, which was ok with me. my parents have spent about 10 days freaking out about food and we are ending up eating pretty simple. meanwhile, i freaked out/labored over the calendar for the same duration, and didn't manage to print it! ... much ado about nothing. perhaps next year we can do the same, without the ado, eh? ;):rolleyes:

i am sorry for your friend. i have sat in silence with people before. sometimes when you are far apart, it is the only thing you can do. the open phone line means you are each listening, even if no-one speaks. it is meaningful.

there are many things i am afraid of lately. it is hard to let go and let God or anyone else... yet it is folly to try to pretend we have control, or can get it in any way. we can control only certain things. i encourage you to focus on things you can control. and not even big or important things which create pressure, and worry about consequences. i suggest you try focusing on small, day to day things, like whether you have chicken soup or lentil soup for dinner. that kind of thing. perhaps that can help express your need for control in ways that generate less anxiety. the rest is just torture... i know... :o

love you :heartthrob:

~ waves ~[/QUOTE]

thank you for that advice. i will try it. right now everything seems to be looming over my head
bobby