Fiber
 

Bobby,

I made a record of the fiber I ate today / Tuesday:

~split pea soup, one can: 8
~two large apples peeled: 5
~rice wrap with cucumber and avocado: 2
~large sweet potato without skin: 6
~sauteed green beans and broccoli: 3

This is 22 grams. I took a guess on the apples because the apples were huge but peeled. This is not my usual day. The pea soup was a major contributor to the total.

Thanks for reminding me to think about fiber.

Mari

go going Mari
i realized that i don't drink enough water or have enough fiber. I might buy metimucil(sp).....I wish i could remember when this started happening to figure out what triggered it. I went on that high protein diet that warns about constipation and i don't know if it happened then. I am obsessed.
bobby

Dear Bobby,

It's not your fault. Sometimes our bodies require a delicate balance that gets a little off kilter. Then we set it back on track.

You are doing well asking questions here and re-analyzing what you eat / drink.


M

Dear Bobby,

how are you doing?

i want to wish you Happy Hanukkah personally. do you have any plans to share it with a friend, or go to a service, maybe the last night?

love

~ waves ~

thank you. I am really frightened. I have really been obsessing.
bobby

No plans...I am going in and out of depression. last night neighbor took me out to eat ...that was very nice. for lunch the senior center is having a holiday party. as i wrote I am obsessing. I am trying to let go and let God. that is the hardest thing for me to do. I am a control freak. a friend is really going through a hard time now so we spent a long time on the phone in silence.
love
bobby

Dear Bobby

oh i am happy that your neighbour took you out to dinner last night! :) did you enjoy it?

and there will be the holiday party too. when is that?

Christmas ended up really being a non-deal here this year in the end, which was ok with me. my parents have spent about 10 days freaking out about food and we are ending up eating pretty simple. meanwhile, i freaked out/labored over the calendar for the same duration, and didn't manage to print it! ... much ado about nothing. perhaps next year we can do the same, without the ado, eh? ;):rolleyes:

i am sorry for your friend. i have sat in silence with people before. sometimes when you are far apart, it is the only thing you can do. the open phone line means you are each listening, even if no-one speaks. it is meaningful.

there are many things i am afraid of lately. it is hard to let go and let God or anyone else... yet it is folly to try to pretend we have control, or can get it in any way. we can control only certain things. i encourage you to focus on things you can control. and not even big or important things which create pressure, and worry about consequences. i suggest you try focusing on small, day to day things, like whether you have chicken soup or lentil soup for dinner. that kind of thing. perhaps that can help express your need for control in ways that generate less anxiety. the rest is just torture... i know... :o

love you :heartthrob:

~ waves ~

Bobby,
Maybe try to let go over little things. Practice with those little things before you tackle big things.


Keep taking care.

M

tthank you for being so understanding. this constipation thingie has me so upset and i see the doctor next week. it is mushroomed into my being so scared of death. your advice is so good and i have tried to use it but failed.
i had a nice meal with my neighbor and a nice meal at the senior center. i had wine and that seemed to relax me.
I am sorry about the calendar. I am sorry about the meal. I am sorry about all the anxiety it may have generated. right now i am just too scared to feel anxiety. yesterday i didn't even turn on the computer or crawl out of bed except to feed the cats and eat.
love you
bobby


oh i am happy that your neighbour took you out to dinner last night! :) did you enjoy it?

and there will be the holiday party too. when is that?

Christmas ended up really being a non-deal here this year in the end, which was ok with me. my parents have spent about 10 days freaking out about food and we are ending up eating pretty simple. meanwhile, i freaked out/labored over the calendar for the same duration, and didn't manage to print it! ... much ado about nothing. perhaps next year we can do the same, without the ado, eh? ;):rolleyes:

i am sorry for your friend. i have sat in silence with people before. sometimes when you are far apart, it is the only thing you can do. the open phone line means you are each listening, even if no-one speaks. it is meaningful.

there are many things i am afraid of lately. it is hard to let go and let God or anyone else... yet it is folly to try to pretend we have control, or can get it in any way. we can control only certain things. i encourage you to focus on things you can control. and not even big or important things which create pressure, and worry about consequences. i suggest you try focusing on small, day to day things, like whether you have chicken soup or lentil soup for dinner. that kind of thing. perhaps that can help express your need for control in ways that generate less anxiety. the rest is just torture... i know... :o

love you :heartthrob:

~ waves ~[/QUOTE]

thank you for that advice. i will try it. right now everything seems to be looming over my head
bobby

Dear bobby,
I amsorrry that you are obcessing...I iknow how hard that is to stop...it is part of our illness.
((((((HUGS)))))
bizi

Bobby,

Remember that none of this is your fault. As Bizi says, the obsessing is caused by the bipolar.
In a good week we have some days in which we are granted some peaceful moments here and there.
I wish you peace in your days.

Mari

Dear Bobby

just wanting to send some (((hugs)))

love

~ waves ~

thank you bizi
i keep on forgetting it is part of our illness. i just got the name of a female doctor somebody at my table likes a lot. that made me feel better. I am so fearful.
bobby

thank you so much Mari. I haven't had any peaceful days lately. I have my physical next thursday and then i will tell the doctor. I am trying so hard to let go and let God
bobby

Hi bobby
 

I really wish I could offer comfort to you. I hope today is a better day for you. I follow this post, and I care about all of you. ginnie

they are much appreciated. you don't know!
love
bobby

the metamucil has worked for two days in a row. at first i didn't think it was going to work today. it tastes like tang. I also just bought post raisin bran.
I have the name of a female doctor who a friend at the table says is very nice.
I have been so upset i have been worried what would happen to the kitty cats.
this has eased some of my anxiety but i am still fearful.
bobby

yey for metamucil!
bizi:Dancing-Chilli:

Good news, Bobby!

M

Hi bobby
 

just sending a good thought your way. Good for the metamucil. Ever try steel cut oatmeal. works good in the fiber dept. and tastes yummy. Way better than the oatmeal in the store. You can find it cheaper at the health food store in bulk. I hope this day is going good for you. ginnie

Dear Bobby,

I wish you an anxiety-free year.

How are you doing?

M

the metamucil worked today but i am not sure about yesterday. I woke up so depressed today and yesterday I just couldnt look at the computer. I feel i just have bad news coming forward. I see my doctor on thursday for a physical and will tell him about my constipation. my sister and a neighbor told me to try activia. I also have to make an appt with the eye doctor and last time he had trouble with his new machine that looks at the back of the eye. that really scared me. then i started a new prescription drug plan and it 320 deductible and it doesn't take one of my medications. I can't get myself to exercise. I am not helping myself. I am so fearful. I am escaping in books.
what a mess.
I appreciate your kind thoughts. I wish i could get out of this funk
bobby

Hi Bobby
 

I hope your appt. goes OK. I also suffer that constipation and found something that does work. Steal cut oatmeal. It has such alot of fibre in it, that it never fails me. You can get it in a health food store in bulk. It is cheap and taste a whole lot better than any from quaker oats etc. This also helped me to loose 65 pounds and keep it off. I try to eat it as often as I can. Hope you try it. ginnie

hi ginnie
i have it in my apartment and will try it
thanks a lot
bobby

oops I forgot about the new thread.

I just don't have the memory I wished I did.

Donna:grouphug:

good bobby
 

Keep with the oatmeal for consecutive days. You may be surprised. Hope I could help you. ginnie

I don't think that any of the yogurt brands really help with regularity.
Good luck with the steel oats! Myralax would work guaranteed but is expensive I think...$20 a month generic at walmart.
thinking of you and wishing you had less anxiety...I think you will feel much better after thursday is over.
(((((HUGS))))
bizi

Hi bizi
 

I tried all the yogurt too. I didn't want to spend the money with meds from walgreens. I tried the oats, as recommended from a friend. This has been the only thing that works for me. Now I don't have to take any kind of supplement to be normal. It is also a good comfort food for the winter. Stay warm bizi, its cold outside, even down here. ginnie

Steel cut oatmeal
 

Hi,

I love steel cut oatmeal.
I put it in the crockpot over night on slow and it is ready in the morning.:)
M

Activia is over priced and not useful in my opinion
 

Bobby,
The probiotics in Yogurt are probably good for health but not necessarily to help with what you are talking about.
The doctor will have good answers for you.

Do what you can. Reading is good. Keep finding ways to escape.

Mari

I think when i looked up miralax it said it should only be used occasionally. I was looking for something that i could use all the time.
bobby

do you think that finding ways to escape is okay? I am not digging myself out of my hole. I still am taking my spiritual class that makes me feel good and plan on signing up for more but i have been so depressed i don't think about what i have learned. I just think of all the negatives facing me until i get into a book or am petting my kitty cats. I am not surprised what you said because i tried probiotics and nothing happened but my sister and neighbor told me activia helped them. I also realized that the metamucil i use has sugar in it and i am afraid to look to see how much. it tastes so good like tang and i don't want the sugarless one. I think the sugarless stuff could be constipating and i don't know how the other would taste. I also haven't been eating that much thank goodness. I lost all the weight i gained. I feel i am under control in that area at least for now.my appetite is flat too-like depression.except for the delicious french fries and hamburg i had the other day.
bobby

right on mari
 

Yep mari, once you try the steal cut oatmeal, you can't go back to that tasteless other stuff. It has a nutty flavor, and I consider it a comfort food. Today is cold down here. Fla. is in for a freeze tonight. I am covering plants. Stay warm the oatmeal helps that too!. ginnie

I have a friend of mine that has used it every day for 10 years.
I hope the oatmeal works for you.
((((HUGS)))
bizi

Dear Ginnie,
Yes. Cold. We might not freeze here tonight but the temperature will get close.

Do you add nuts or fruit to your oatmeal? I remember a recipe that called for a can of pumpkin cooked with the steel cut oats. I hate pumpkin but I might like sweet potatoes.


M

escaping is nice...how is your weather,
bizi
congratulations on losing the weight, you are doing really well!

Dear Bobby,
Embrace the idea of escape. Use any thing you can to get through your day.

It is ok that you you do not think about what you learned in the spiritual class. The class is a good way for you you to escape.

Metamucil's main ingredient is Psyllium. http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmedhealth/PMH0000092/

Talk to your doctor. You can buy that separately in a capsule to drink with water without the sugar or sugar substitute.

I am so impressed that you are keeping off your weight. Keeping it off, according to last week's New York Times Magazine, is harder than taking it off. You have a great achievement that you can be proud of.

M

Hi Mari
 

I do add to the seal cut oatmeal some nice plump raisens. Also if I want it sweater a bit I add some natural sugar, or even some brown sugar, Oh boy is that good. I never thought I would think of oat meal as a comfort food, but it is. Especially on cold days like today. I spent some time covering plants. Usually where I live in Fla. we do not freeze. Last night wasn't too bad, but the chill is on the way. Stay warm Mari, take care ginnie

I didn't like the liquid metamuticil. So I take the capsils.

I have found they work really well for me.

Donna:grouphug::hug: