When you stop chasing the wrong things you give
the right things a chance to catch you.

As Maria Robinson once said, “Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.” Nothing could be closer to the truth. But before you can begin this process of transformation you have to stop doing the things that have been holding you back.
Here are some ideas to get you started:

1. Stop spending time with the wrong people. – Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you. If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you. You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot. Never, ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth. And remember, it’s not the people that stand by your side when you’re at your best, but the ones who stand beside you when you’re at your worst that are your true friends.
2. Stop running from your problems. – Face them head on. No, it won’t be easy. There is no person in the world capable of flawlessly handling every punch thrown at them. We aren’t supposed to be able to instantly solve problems. That’s not how we’re made. In fact, we’re made to get upset, sad, hurt, stumble and fall. Because that’s the whole purpose of living – to face problems, learn, adapt, and solve them over the course of time. This is what ultimately molds us into the person we become.
3. Stop lying to yourself. – You can lie to anyone else in the world, but you can’t lie to yourself. Our lives improve only when we take chances, and the first and most difficult chance we can take is to be honest with ourselves. Read The Road Less Traveled.
4. Stop putting your own needs on the back burner. – The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too. Yes, help others; but help yourself too. If there was ever a moment to follow your passion and do something that matters to you, that moment is now.
5. Stop trying to be someone you’re not. – One of the greatest challenges in life is being yourself in a world that’s trying to make you like everyone else. Someone will always be prettier, someone will always be smarter, someone will always be younger, but they will never be you. Don’t change so people will like you. Be yourself and the right people will love the real you.
6. Stop trying to hold onto the past. – You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading your last one.
7. Stop being scared to make a mistake. – Doing something and getting it wrong is at least ten times more productive than doing nothing. Every success has a trail of failures behind it, and every failure is leading towards success. You end up regretting the things you did NOT do far more than the things you did.
8. Stop berating yourself for old mistakes. – We may love the wrong person and cry about the wrong things, but no matter how things go wrong, one thing is for sure, mistakes help us find the person and things that are right for us. We all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past. But you are not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here NOW with the power to shape your day and your future. Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.
9. Stop trying to buy happiness. – Many of the things we desire are expensive. But the truth is, the things that really satisfy us are totally free – love, laughter and working on our passions.
10. Stop exclusively looking to others for happiness. – If you’re not happy with who you are on the inside, you won’t be happy in a long-term relationship with anyone else either. You have to create stability in your own life first before you can share it with someone else. Read Stumbling on Happiness.
11. Stop being idle. – Don’t think too much or you’ll create a problem that wasn’t even there in the first place. Evaluate situations and take decisive action. You cannot change what you refuse to confront. Making progress involves risk. Period! You can’t make it to second base with your foot on first.
12. Stop thinking you’re not ready. – Nobody ever feels 100% ready when an opportunity arises. Because most great opportunities in life force us to grow beyond our comfort zones, which means we won’t feel totally comfortable at first.
13. Stop getting involved in relationships for the wrong reasons. – Relationships must be chosen wisely. It’s better to be alone than to be in bad company. There’s no need to rush. If something is meant to be, it will happen – in the right time, with the right person, and for the best reason. Fall in love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely.
14. Stop rejecting new relationships just because old ones didn’t work. – In life you’ll realize that there is a purpose for everyone you meet. Some will test you, some will use you and some will teach you. But most importantly, some will bring out the best in you.
15. Stop trying to compete against everyone else. – Don’t worry about what others doing better than you. Concentrate on beating your own records every day. Success is a battle between YOU and YOURSELF only.
16. Stop being jealous of others. – Jealousy is the art of counting someone else’s blessings instead of your own. Ask yourself this: “What’s something I have that everyone wants?”
17. Stop complaining and feeling sorry for yourself. – Life’s curveballs are thrown for a reason – to shift your path in a direction that is meant for you. You may not see or understand everything the moment it happens, and it may be tough. But reflect back on those negative curveballs thrown at you in the past. You’ll often see that eventually they led you to a better place, person, state of mind, or situation. So smile! Let everyone know that today you are a lot stronger than you were yesterday, and you will be.
18. Stop holding grudges. – Don’t live your life with hate in your heart. You will end up hurting yourself more than the people you hate. Forgiveness is not saying, “What you did to me is okay.” It is saying, “I’m not going to let what you did to me ruin my happiness forever.” Forgiveness is the answer… let go, find peace, liberate yourself! And remember, forgiveness is not just for other people, it’s for you too. If you must, forgive yourself, move on and try to do better next time.
19. Stop letting others bring you down to their level. – Refuse to lower your standards to accommodate those who refuse to raise theirs.
20. Stop wasting time explaining yourself to others. – Your friends don’t need it and your enemies won’t believe it anyway. Just do what you know in your heart is right.
21. Stop doing the same things over and over without taking a break. – The time to take a deep breath is when you don’t have time for it. If you keep doing what you’re doing, you’ll keep getting what you’re getting. Sometimes you need to distance yourself to see things clearly.
22. Stop overlooking the beauty of small moments. – Enjoy the little things, because one day you may look back and discover they were the big things. The best portion of your life will be the small, nameless moments you spend smiling with someone who matters to you.
23. Stop trying to make things perfect. – The real world doesn’t reward perfectionists, it rewards people who get things done. Read Getting Things Done.
24. Stop following the path of least resistance. – Life is not easy, especially when you plan on achieving something worthwhile. Don’t take the easy way out. Do something extraordinary.
25. Stop acting like everything is fine if it isn’t. – It’s okay to fall apart for a little while. You don’t always have to pretend to be strong, and there is no need to constantly prove that everything is going well. You shouldn’t be concerned with what other people are thinking either – cry if you need to – it’s healthy to shed your tears. The sooner you do, the sooner you will be able to smile again.
26. Stop blaming others for your troubles. – The extent to which you can achieve your dreams depends on the extent to which you take responsibility for your life. When you blame others for what you’re going through, you deny responsibility – you give others power over that part of your life.
27. Stop trying to be everything to everyone. – Doing so is impossible, and trying will only burn you out. But making one person smile CAN change the world. Maybe not the whole world, but their world. So narrow your focus.
28. Stop worrying so much. – Worry will not strip tomorrow of its burdens, it will strip today of its joy. One way to check if something is worth mulling over is to ask yourself this question: “Will this matter in one year’s time? Three years? Five years?” If not, then it’s not worth worrying about.
29. Stop focusing on what you don’t want to happen. – Focus on what you do want to happen. Positive thinking is at the forefront of every great success story. If you awake every morning with the thought that something wonderful will happen in your life today, and you pay close attention, you’ll often find that you’re right.
30. Stop being ungrateful. – No matter how good or bad you have it, wake up each day thankful for your life. Someone somewhere else is desperately fighting for theirs. Instead of thinking about what you’re missing, try thinking about what you have that everyone else is missing.

BEAUTIFULLLLLLLLLLLLLL !!!

Thanks my friend !!!

thanks. somebody just recommended the road less traveled so I finally just bought a used copy at amazon.
bobby- i guess i don't give up

Sounds good Bobby. And you don't give up.

Donna

Hi,
These are very good. I thought about them for awhile.
I restated items in the list so that they are positive. (Instead of saying what we are not supposed to do, this list says what we are supposed to do. The brain recognizes positive statements.)


1.Start spending time with the right people. –If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you.

2.Face issues head on. –That is the whole purpose of living – to face issues and then learn, adapt, and resolve them over the course of time. This is what ultimately molds us into the person we become.

3.Start telling yourself the truth. –Our lives improve only when we take chances, and the first and most difficult chance we can take is to be honest with ourselves. Read The Road Less Traveled.

4.Put your own needs on the front burner. –Remember that you are special. Yes, help others; but help yourself too. If there was ever a moment to follow your passion and do something that matters to you, that moment is now.

5.Start trying to be who you are. – One of the greatest challenges in life is being yourself in a world that’s trying to make you like everyone else. Be yourself and the right people will love the real you.

6.Let go of the past so that you can live in the present and look forward to the future. – You can start the next chapter of your life because you already read the last chapter.

7.Allow yourself to make a mistake. – Doing something and getting it wrong is at least ten times more productive than doing nothing. Every success has a trail of mistakes behind it, and every mistake is leading towards success.

8.Tell yourself that it is ok to make mistakes. –You are here NOW with the power to shape your day and your future. Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.

9.Free yourself from trying buy happiness. – Many of the things we desire are expensive. But the truth is, the things that really satisfy us are totally free – love, laughter and working on our passions.

10.Look to yourself for happiness. –You need to create stability in your own life first before you can share it with someone else. Read Stumbling on Happiness.

11.Be more active. – Evaluate situations and take decisive action. Making progress involves risk. Period! In order to make it to second base you have to have your foot on first.

12.Start thinking you are ready enough. – It is ok to take an opportunity when we feel 70% ready. Most great opportunities force us to grow beyond our comfort zones.

13.Get involved in relationships for the right reasons. – Relationships must be chosen wisely. If something is meant to be, it will happen – in the right time, with the right person, and for the best reason. Fall in love when you are ready.

14.Be open to new relationships. – In life you will realize that there is a purpose for everyone you meet. Some will test you and some will teach you. But most importantly, some will bring out the best in you.

15.Try to compete with yourself. –Concentrate on beating your own records. Have sympathy, for others also. Ask yourself this: what can I share with others?

16.Delight in other people’s blessings. –Feel good when someone else is doing well.

17.Rejoice in what the past has taught you. –You will see that the past has led you to a better place, person, state of mind, or situation. So smile! Let everyone know that today you are a lot stronger than you were yesterday, and you will be stronger tomorrow.

18.Be sympathetic. –Live your life with love in your heart. Forgiveness is the answer… let go, find peace, liberate yourself! And remember, forgiveness is for other people and it is for you too. Forgive yourself, move on and try to do better next time.

19.Give people an opportunity to raise themselves to your level. – Keep your standards high.

20.Listen to yourself. –Just do what you know in your heart is right.

21.Create new habits and new ways of thinking about things. –Remember that sometimes you need to distance yourself to see things clearly.

22.Pay attention to the beauty of small moments. – Enjoy the little things because one day you may look back and discover they were the big things. The best portions of your life will be the small, nameless moments you spend smiling with someone who matters to you.

23.Productivity is directly proportional to our ability to relax.– Every task, promise, or assignment has a place and a time. With everything in its proper place and time, you will feel in control. Read Getting Things Done.

24.Start following challenging paths: – Life is complicated sometimes, especially when you plan on achieving something worthwhile. Do something extraordinary.

25.It is okay to fall apart for a little while. –You can allow yourself to be weak sometimes. Also, let go of other people’s concerns. Cry if you need to – it is healthy to shed your tears. The sooner you do, the sooner you will be able to smile again.

26.Take responsibility for your life. – The extent to which you can achieve your dreams depends on the extent to which you take responsibility for your life. Give yourself power.

27.Make one person smile. –That CAN change the world. Maybe not the whole world, but their world. So narrow your focus.

28.Release worry. –One way to check if something is worth mulling over is to ask yourself this question: “Will this matter in one year’s time? Three years? Five years?” If not, then it is not worth worrying about.

29.Focus on what you want to happen. –Positive thinking is at the forefront of every great success story. If you awake every morning with the thought that something wonderful will happen in your life today, and you pay close attention, you will often find that you are right.

30.Be Grateful. –Wake up each day thankful. Think about what you have.

Thank you for doing this mari, you are absolutely correct, we need to focus on the positives in our lives, this is a much better list what you have written.
thank you again!
bizi