Hi,

I really do not know why she and I are friends because I do not feel like we are friends.



She and her younger brother are counting on me to stop by her room tonight.

M

I am confused, right now she doesn't feel like your best friend? This is what you originally posted to us.

are you resenting their influencing/ needing you to be there. It sounds like pressure to me...which I can't handle.
sorry this is a hard time right now. Glad it is not during the school year though.
(((((HUGS))))))
bizi

Real friends not acquintances, are those that would be there for us too for the 4.5 hrs, wash hair, and get them out of bed walking. Family does that, and you were a very special person we love to have done that although it took an emotional and physical toll. :hug: One of the biggest hearts I know my friend!
Hugs.
di

Yes very special friends do those kind of things.

I have visited friends in the hospital that are so tickled to have a friend
come. That they just really let you know. And are so happy.

Donna:grouphug::hug:

HI,

I was with her over two hours tonight.
She has not slept since she was extubated.
She is also uncomfortable because she broke out in hives due to a med.


Before I left, she asked me to make the room as dark as possible by turning off lights, pulling curtains over the windows, . .

We expect that she will be discharged tomorrow / Wednesday morning.

M

that sounds awful for her. Glad that she is going home soon.
you are a good friend to her.
bizi

first i am so happy she is getting discharged shortly. your post really puzzled me. how do you feel towards her? has this incident brought you closer? did you do it out of duty? you need to take better care of yourself
bobby

Bobby,

Perhaps my post was puzzling because I am deeply ambivalent about my relationship with her. This incident has not brought us closer. It has taught me to distance myself from her emotionally. (She had a huge health problem in 2004. This current episode is not as bad but it has kind of brought all of us back to the same emotions.)
Yet, if I am angry -- as I am at the moment -- I am still caught up and not distant at all.
It is hard to distance oneself and that is why I struggle.

M

Dear Mari
 

Yes. It is a very hard thing to do. :o I wish you well in your... effort. I am sorry it is a struggle, but I am glad you are trying to find boundaries that are healthier for you, in regard to this friend. Maybe feeling out the ambivalence can help guide you. Keep trying. You will find a way. :hug::hug::hug:

~ waves ~

Hi,

I told the friend and brother that I am taking off from the hospital to go to the beach with hubby tonight.

M