Dear Sharla,

I wish you weren't going through this it does sound so frightening.
Thank goodness hubby is being supportive. I am glad for that.

I agree with the others' - please contact your psychiatrist immediately and ask to be seen ASAP. Talk about what is happening to you.

You should also inform him/her regarding some issues brought up in this thread by Steve and Mari, ie:
-- whether something recent has upset you (was there an incident that you can identify that set off these recent problems)?
-- whether you are currently trying to get pregnant.

you need not share these things with us unless you wish to, but these are important pieces of information for your doctor, in order that he/she can provide appropriate treatment. do please call the doctor asap.

i am sending you calming thoughts, love, hope, and many hugs.

you hang in there and let us know how you are ok?



~ waves ~

I called the pdoc before I posted here. I feel better than yesterday. There were several things that happened this month that has triggered me off. And yesterday, a medical emergency happened to another employee. He had an asthma attack and lied about being ok. I told him he has to seek medical attention asap. The guy left his inhaler at home along with his phone! I was angered by his carelessness. I tried to get an ambulance he said no. A cab, he said no. I at this rate made a co worker take him to hospital that was a block away. He agreed to that. Then decides to change his mind hop on a train and said he was fine. The guy has always never listened to me even when it came to work. So that is a very big set off for me yesterday. I don't know if the guy is alive or dead. I will find out today I guess. Next time I am just calling an ambulance against his will and I will tell him to shut up and sit tight. I am soooo done being polite to this guy. Being assistant manager is so hard. But it pays my bills. I would like to post a few more times but I have get to work. I will keep everyone updated on meds. I definitely need more of it.

Dear Sharla,

I'm really glad to hear you'd already called your pdoc!

What a terrible incident to go through. You did a good job trying to help the guy in so many ways. If he was walking to get a train he must have been breathing so i suppose the emergency was over by then. He will most likely be ok.

A suggestion: Your workplace probably has procedural guidelines for medical emergencies/illness/injury, that cover company policy, legal and financial liabilities.

Probably your manager and most certainly the HR manager should be able to provide guidance on how to handle these situations. Sometimes there are even little reference booklets.

Managing other people is a stressful job, themoreso when these incidents happen. Please take a several deep breaths, and pat yourself on the back for trying to respect the guy's wishes while taking care of him at the same time.

I hope life gets easier on you and you don't have so many triggering events.

(((((((hugs)))))))

~ waves ~

Sharla

You did everything for him that you could. It honestly sounds like
he has a phobia about hospitals, or no insurance.

I also have asthma, and its sometimes hard to recover from a attack.
And leaving your inhaler at home is not good. You were right to
worry and try to send him to the hospital. I hope he is okay.

But from my experience if he could walk to catch a train he was okay.
He had gotten a second breath and was working to get home. Or
where ever else he wanted to go.

Donna

Dear Sharla,

You are not responsible for other people. You are responsible only for yourself and to some extent your husband.

I am aware that you live in a huge city and that you are around lots of people all day. Find ways to distance yourself from what is going on with those other people. Let them be. Let them make decisions for themselves and let them move about in their day as they choose. Give them courtesy/ respect / emotional distance. Also, freeing them also frees you.
I think sometimes you might feel kind of bombarded by people and events and you let all that get to you. Take some slow belly breaths in and out and focus on your body and your mind. You can do that.

I hope today is going o.k. for you. I am glad you spoke to the pdoc and have plans to get the medications straightened out.

Mari

I hope that this employee learns his lessen,and brings his inhaler the next time.

It's hard to work with people when they don't listen to you,when they don't work as a team,when they don't communicate,and when they back stab,and betray fellow workers,and customers.

This type of thing can make you angry every day. That anger,and frustration has a draining affect on us who are sensitive.

I'd have imaginations going to work about interring the work force in the middle of a possible bad day,or seeing myself getting jumped on because someone want's to vent on someone. At night I would see these things in my mind after going to bed. These thoughts would dance through my mind before I'd fall asleep.

We are sensitive people,and some are most certainly not. These things bother me also,and I find out that the other ones don't care. It's a hard world out there. BF

You're so right. That's why I'm glad this little corner of cyberspace feels safe.

Thank you Mari you are correct about distancing myself from people. And letting them make their own choices, and so on. I will start doing that from now on. I would love to feel free from this chaos. Thank you Mari for the post.

Thank you Donna for sharing. This helped me calm down. Now I can panic less in my head. today he came into work fine. But I gave him an ear full. I had to say something.
He got the picture thank goodness.

thank you waves! I am getting better.
Got s hold of the pdoc. And she said that i need to sleep really well every night. Get as many hours of sleep as possible. So i am doing exactly that. And drink chamomile tea. I see her Friday.