Hi Friends,
May I ask your advice on how you deal with a major depressive time?
Crying all the time, suicidal, not sleeping, eating etc.
Do you just hold on and it runs its course?
What would they do to you if you went to the hospital?
Anything help? Anything make it worse? Any advise would be helpful.
Thanks,
Brain

You honestly need to talk to your doctor about these systoms.

Sounds like you need a antidepressant on board. There are seizure medicines that are such also.

I can't exactly answer what they would do if you went to the hospital.
But to start they would evaluate you. See if you needed admitted.

And would work on meds and therapy I believe.

Donna

Please get some help. If you need it.

I went to my doctor yesterday and told him I was having major problems. He just said that "you need to hold it together for your mom". That's it. And I have been. I have been the strong one. Have been dealing with all of it because she falls apart so easily. I am hurt myself so it takes an Incredable toll on me.
I would and have tried to get some counseling but Medicaid will not pay for it and I am having to apply for disability a second time. I just don't see where there is help available.
Well, I will just hang tough and hope for the best. This is a scary feeling. I don't like it.
I will pray. Jesus will help me.
Brain

Brain,
Those of us with bipolar are seeing psychiatrists for medications.
Family medical doctors/ GPs are not trained or experienced to treat mood disorders (depression, bipolar, . . .).
After your testing, you will be directed to specialists who can treat you.

Hospitals are usually short term and can keep people safe in a crisis. If you go to the hospital, they will evaluate you. If you want, you can telephone two or three ERs during the day and ask about the process / procedures.

That is not appropriate. Your mom is responsible for herself and you are responsible for yourself. Your mother needs to request more help. She needs to start with your father's doctor by telling him to order more help from medicaid programs. If he is useless she needs to get on the phone with state and local agencies.

Do some work on the web or get some one to help you. Look, a quick search brings up support groups for Parkinson's. The people in these groups are reaching out to others.
http://www.utahapda.org/support.html

Mari

I am so sorry that you are having these feelings.continue to "talk " here we will listen but you really need to be evaluated and treated by a psychiatrist.
may I ask how old you are, do you have any siblings to confide in ask for help?
((((HUGS))))
to you tonight
bizi

Hiya Brain,

unfortunately there is no short answer to your question. If i were forced to give a short answer it might be something like, "Get on meds and hold on tight until they start working."

But that isn't a very comprehensive answer... if a med doesn't seem to work you need to get back in touch with the doctor and follow up - sometimes one med will work better than another.

When you go to a pdoc ("when" = me being optimistic that you will do so) make sure to tell him you have seizures and REM sleep disorder. Many antidepressants lower the sz threshold, i.e. make a person more prone to sz, but some more than others. The pdoc will need to know of all your medical issues so he can prescribe something appropriate, in light of your overall medical situation.

I hate what your doctor said to you about being strong for your mom and dad... unfortunately many people - even doctors - really don't get it and tells us things like "just suck it up" or "grow up" or whatever... it so totally does not work that way.

I agree with everyone that you need a psychiatrist (pdoc) to help you here.

A lot of is it holding on, and reminding yourself that it is temporary. Talk therapy can help... could you afford a licensed counselor who just has an MA? They will be much cheaper than, for instance, a psychologist and are often just as helpful or even more so.

Hang in there, and yes, do pray... it will help.

((((( HUGS )))))

~ waves ~

Thanks you guys. Sorry for falling apart on you. I am feeling better since I got a lot of sleep. Slept most the day yesterday and most the night. I am going to go back to bed now. I am just exhausted.
I thought it was very inappropriate what the doctor said also. It made it worse. I am 42 yrs old. I do have one sister and two brothers but could never talk to them about anything like this. They understand nothing about TBI, PCS, anxiety, chronic pain etc. we are not close. They would not even answer the phone to me.
I am hoping that after I am done with the neuropsychological testing that they will get me to the correct kind of doctor. And also explain to my brothers and sister about what is wrong with me so they can understand. They are all extremely successful and have perfect health and lives. They do not understand my illness or my dads or what me and my mother are going through.
I do know that I need to get to a different kind of doctor. My doctor only knows about treating pain and I am not so sure he has been good at that even.
Brain

HI Brain,

Thanks for checking in and don't EVER worry about "falling apart on" us here. This is the right place to come when you are falling apart. Of course, you're welcome any time, falling apart is not a prereq!

Sorry about your siblings being so foreign to your situation. That SUXX.

A lot of folks here - here at NT not just in this forum - have multiple specialists due to multiple (and sometimes overlapping or related conditions.

In your case, you may still need your pdoc, and you will certainly need the neuro. The pdoc will be an add-on. Whether or not counseling is recommended to you after the psych eval, I personally thing it is a good idea.

Consider the fact that people who are not ill choose counseling just to help them deal with specific issues.

It is a pain juggling multiple docs, and for you, it might be a true ordeal.

You might want to talk to your GP and see how s/he feels about being a point person who can help you keep track of all your scripts and needs. The person I mentioned to you before - who has had multiple incidents (multiple tbi and stroke with resulting epilepsy, migraines, memory wipeout, full body injuries w/ subsequent chronic pain, etc etc etc) ... this was one of his needs from his GP - that the GP track all the different issues and help keep the scripts in order... in part d/t his own memory issues... forgetting someone's birthday might not be fun but forgetting a script could cause serious problems.

I am glad you got sleep and that it has made you feel better. Lack of sleep can affect our moods... in many ways.



~ waves ~

so glad that you are feeling better after resting. rest some more.
So sorry that you don't have your siblings support. that is terrible.
keep posting we are listening.
(((((HUGS)))))
bizi

Suggestion on the counseling. Sometimes when a person can't afford a counselor right away. They can talk to their pastor or someone like this.

Look into a group like this.

Donna