it will be a short night after a tv OD blahhhh.
but i wanted to leave you some friendly and encouraging ((((HUGS))))

don't know how today went, but want tor remind you that you deserve the best regardless - and you deserve some HUGS.



~ waves ~

Bizi,
Don't be afraid to talk even if you did drink today. It is ok. There is no judgement. I am not even suggesting you have to stop drinking. I just want you to be in control of it. Remember what I said about "managing" the situation. That does not mean cold turkey, none forever. You did a great job of going without any the last two days. If you needed to have a few drinks that is ok. Just don't want to see you hurt your body or mind with too much. Moderation is fine.
Keep talking to us and know you are supported and loved here no matter what.
Brain

thank you for your continued support.
I don't have any alcohol in the house and I don't plan on buying any either so I will remain alcohol free (AF) for as long as I can be.
Say my tdoc today.
We talked alot about my drinking behavior and she was happy with me for getting back in control.
bizi

Hi, Bizi,

'Good to hear that the tdoc is helpful.

Mari

Dear Bizi

well done! you have got yourself organized not to drink - that helps.

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I will be trying not to drink, just this week, also.

unfortunately my house is well stocked and my dad drinks at dinner.

this is also the only week in my cycle i am not migraine prone, so it usually a time i consider my self "free" to drink if i want. so it really sucks because i do not feel like being abstinent.

Actually, abstinence is recommended throughout and for months after a benzo taper, but i haven't been observing that. I did not observe it the other time I d/c'd this benzo but I was having only occasional drinks, in small amounts. Come to think though, in the beginning i did have a couple of " drinking incidents" - so maybe the recent incidents ar erelated to the benzo decrease. hmmm. it would make sense.

~ waves ~ who is now very tired and won't be making sense soon.
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My eyelids are getting heavier and heavier.

i believe a benzo taper could trigger your migraines.....
take the not drinking a day at a time.
Wish you were migraine free.
bizi

I love that one day at a time analogy, so many things in life it is one day at a time, one foot in front of the other.
Are there only religious AA type groups? Life is short my friend, I want you to be happy.
I understand the moderation is a challenge and I know you want to lose weight, I wish there was a good answer. Lots of info and life experiences shared by others really if full of thoughts and help to gain insight.
Huge hugs and love my friend.
Di.

Thank you Bizi

When I was real bad with alcohol there were times even a day was too long.
Those times, I'd bargain with myself to postpone a drink for 15 mins!

I do believe in setting goals in accordance with where I am at.
It feels good to be able to express them, if that is ok?
See, I haven't been drinking every day - not even close.
Current problem has been occasional overdoing and for the wrong reason - "using".

For where I am at now, I won't have any problem abstaining for one week.
I am only a bit disgruntled about the timing which coincides with my periodic "safe window" for "acceptable" drinking.

So is that ok for me to say.... that I'm not going to drink for a week?
I will still check in daily.

Hope you have a great day Bizi!

~ waves ~

Waves,

It is definitely o.k. for you to say that.
The plan you have set for yourself is good.
We follow our own stars.

Mari

Hi DiMarie and Everyone

This is just an FYI because some may not be aware that 12-step programs are typically based on the 12 Steps ideated by Alcoholics Anonymous (AA). These 12 steps have explicit Christian underpinnings. I have searched for adaptations but none that I found took out the religious parts. I have quoted the steps below.

Bizi - I know you are aware of this, it was more an FYI for other readers. If having this material here bothers you, please let me or a mod know so we can just remove this post.

http://www.aa.org.au/members/twelve-steps.php

I was once told by someone from AA that one's higher "power" (Step 2) need not be God. She said it could be a ... door-knob!!! (?) ReallY? If you read through these steps, you will see how difficult it might be, first to adapt them to exclude the Christian "God" (much less replace God with a door-knob! ) and second, to find a group able to accept and relate to someone having a "personalized" - and less religious - higher power.

~ waves ~ hoping this helps folks to get a better idea of what is and is not inherent in AA