[BlueMajo]

Dear all,

I feel so bad and sorry for not coming here as often as used to... My life is a mess...

I cant focus as I used to...

Im trying to loss weight and have started doing some exercise but I feel exhausted all day and cant focus in what I have to do like reading or coming here and post useful or smart posts or comments... :/

Basically I feel "weird"... likea zombie ?

I have personal problems, I mean, school is at least working, demanding like always but working better than last semester, however, my relationship with friends, pseudo-friends and the guy I would like as boyfriend are really bothering me and... keeping me out of inner peace...
Actually, I need help understanding ADD... it is not for me (yet), it is for this guy... He just told me he suffers of ADD and, well, my perspective towards him has changed because I think many of his reactions or actions can be due to ADD and maybe I have been very hard judging him...

I have been searching the internet but I havent found a real useful "how to understand ADD people" book or something like that... :/

right now for example, I cant keep writing because my brain feels exhausted...

Please forgive me. And note that you all are always on my mind. I love you so much

[Mari]

Hi,

Does he act disorganized? Is he late? Does he get enough sleep?

http://www.ehow.com/how_5089048_deal-adhd-adults.html

Employ strategies that can ease the relationship stress caused by ADHD. Post to-do lists and appointments. Speak in short sentences and ask your friend or spouse to repeat what she heard. Give her plenty of notice when her schedule will be disrupted, and complete chores together instead of delegating. Help with organization or prioritization, tolerate excitability and don't criticize, . . . .

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N3UR76RHzMA video
Adults with ADHD
. . . world class procrastinators . . . more than than the normal unfinished projects laying around . . . poor follow through



Mari

[Dmom3005]

Mayo

I want to applaud the guy for sharing this with you. This means he not only
feels comfortable with you. He trust you to understand, and want to be around him with knowing this.

I have two son's that were treated as children with ADHD. And now are leading pretty normal lifes. I can tell you pretty much that one has settled
down and his ADHD is under control. Because his biggest issue was the hyperactivity. So once he got older, he wasn't as hyper, and could learn to control the other things. And did so.

The other one is very ADD, and has to use skills to work through this. But he doesn't do this as much as he should. So he still forgets things. And depends on us to remind him. He luckily has me, his girlfriend and dad to make sure he remembers. His main two things he has to remember daily are to go to work on time, and to take his medications.

OTher than this, we have to make sure he remembers to pick up his medications when he runs low. Pay the bills he is responsible for. Come get mail from me at my house. And I have to call him and remind him about
doctor's appts before they happen usually.

I depend on his girlfriend for the everyday things though. And when he starts to realize that he is forgetting to much. He will usually ask his doctor about adderall. Which is what worked for him.

But with his illness, Crohns, or Ulceraticus colitis. We watch if it bothers him.
He finally feels better. SO we don't rock the boat.

Donna

[waves]

Hi Majo

nice to see you!

This is a classic book on ADD... apparently the revised edition is out:

Amazon.com - "Driven to Distraction"

It is more aimed at people who have ADD or think they might, than folks who deal with others that have it... but it might provide some insight. You might be able to find something by the same author, or just check amazon or google books, for self-help books on dealing with others who have the disorder.

Don't feel bad about not posting. We are always here and we do know school keeps you pretty busy. I am glad it is going well for you this semester!

~ waves ~

[BlueMajo]

First of all, thank you for being part of my life.... Like I have always told you, I feel like this is the only place where people understands me and loves me... Im tired of my "real" life.... Tired of routine... That includes nit inly going to the lab, read papers and stuff, but also, being alone all the time... I spend too much time on facebook because I feel like I free my mind... And well, I have a good friend there... Who sadly, lives in near Doha, Qatar... And who like you, I cant visit or hug in real

Now, thanks for all the help with the ADD, I have been reading a lot, I really want to understand him...
I have to admitt he has totally screwed up my life... I mean, not necesarily in the wromg way, but I worry to much about what he does and what doesnt, and what he says etc... And basically I cant focus in my things because Im thinking about him all day...

Im tired of being depressed... Sick... Fat... Loosing my hair etc... I have tried about this with doc, meds help me 80% of the time, but the otger 20% of my time Im so down and blue and disappointed....

Argh.

[Just Jacquie]

Hi FB friend . So, have a bit of a stomach virus bug, so laying around visiting old haunts, including here! Did you know that I have ADD?? I have the hypoactive kind, kind of 'dreamy' as a kid, tho no trouble with schoolwork, etc. Both my son and daughter were Dxed w/ ADHD when they were in middle school, my daughter later Dxed w/ bipolar, personality disorder, etc, etc.

There are lots of books out there, which are good, and there must be some good articles online as well. Look up C.H.A.D.D., an org for ADHD kids and adults. I used to be active in that org, even went to two Conferences on it. I met several authors of ADHD books, including Ned Hallowell and John Ratey, who wrote 'Driven to Distraction', and other books after that. That is a great book, explains alot about how the ADHD brain works (or doesn't work, depending on your point of view)! Many famous folks, comedians, entertainers, etc have been Dxed w/ ADHD, many as kids, like Robin Williams, Jim Carey, oh, can't remember anymore, but you can find articles online about that, for sure!

Sorry you are not feeling well about you personal life right now. I had similar problems in certain parts of my life, and my Andrea certainly did, too. Don't be so hard on yourself -- I KNOW YOU ARE . Anyhow, glad to see you reach out here. I knew something was wrong, by the way, by your status updates lately on FB

Many {{{{{HUGS}}}}}. Take care!

[Mari]

Originally Posted by BlueMajo

, meds help me 80% of the time, but the otger 20% of my time Im so down and blue and disappointed....
.

Hi,



I so completely understand.

I want meds to cover me 100% of the time!!!!


Mari

[BlueMajo]

Haha, yeah Mari... Sometimes Im tired of my meds... sometimes I just love them... sometimes Im ok, sometimes they work, sometimes they s u c k... oh well...

Jacquie, my lovely friend I adore... I didnt know ! Or couldnt remember it... My memory is really bad these days... or always ? Thanks for your post

Im feeling really lonely tonight... There are too many things i would like to say to this guy tonight, but I shouldnt... I wont. Maybe it is better to keep a friend even when it hurts because I love him and he doesnt love me...

Blah...

I love you so much !!!!

[bizi]

where did you meet this man?how long have you known him,?
Are you sure he doesn't have some feelings for you, some guys are really shy.
Being friends first is one way to really get to know someone.
I wish for you some sleep tonight and I am really glad that you posted to us.
We love you too and don't want to see you hurting....
(((((HUGS)))))
bizi

[waves]

Oh Majo,

Originally Posted by BlueMajo

There are too many things i would like to say to this guy tonight, but I shouldnt... I wont. Maybe it is better to keep a friend even when it hurts because I love him and he doesnt love me...

I am so sorry. Am I getting this right... that you would like to be more than friends with this guy but he just cares as a friend?

(Are you sure he only wants to be friends?)

I am all too familiar with that kind of pain and the desire to simply remain friends in spite of it.

That kind of hurt really sucks, though!

Try to spend your time thinking about other things more. If things are this way, it is not good to dwell on it. But you know that right? And it's easier said than done - I know that! Still, we must try, to keep ourselves sane.

In these areas meds don't do squat - sometimes I do wish they had an anti-love pill.

I hope you will find out things are not as they appear. Maybe he does care more thank you think?

~ waves ~