This apt seems noisy as all get out: trucks, chain saws, more trucks emptying dumpsters, kids, kids who set off burglar alarms, maintainance workers, construction workers, construction trucks and equipment within earshot of my bedroom, neighbors unkind enough to open and close their doors without being gentle and quiet, and did I say stupid drivers squealing out of the 7 - 11 near me, oh yeah and the noisy truck that delivers to the 7-11 every night at 3:00 am with noise impact and leaves making a huge scary noise at 3:50,
and neighbors in the afternoon upstairs working up some noisy project..

Do you think that a heavy curtain over the window in the bed room will help keep out some noise?

Pre-bipolar I lived uder a flight path of a major international airport and loved it. I thought it exciting to imagine the lives of people who were coming and going in the planes above me. What has happened to those people now? Did they/do they live the lives they expected? :worried:


Anxious. Went to mall for hair cut. Walked around looking for anything that would fit me and look presentable. After a few hours, found a pretty skirt for work.
Went to organic store for soap. Hubby sneaks in soaps with smells (I'm allergic) if I do not stay over stocked in the house.

Came home and napped 20 mins. Then went out for Boston Market chicken for hubby's dinner.

My feet hurt from walking in the mall in my sandals.

Hubby is still making trips to the old apt for stuff that did not get packed. (He was really unclear about the concept of paying movers to move boxes!!!!) Not my problem.

We hired a clearning lady to clean the old place -- another too long talk that I had to have with hubby. He wanted to save the movey and do the work himself -- work that he won't get to in time to turn in the keys. And this is part of the money that my mom sent for crying out loud.

Work again tomorrow.
I gave myself a pedicure. Not A+ , but I feet feel and look better.

Tell me that I will get used to the noises of the new place. I need to believe.
Mari

Hi Mari,
I feel badly that you have all that noise, but after awhile I bet you will just get used to it. Do you take anything for sleep? If not check with your p-doc or PCP, because you have a problem sleeping anyway right??????

Use a fan, for me that blocks out noise, not that I have that problem, but it lulls me off, especially if I nap during the day.

My mom uses her TV she can't sleep without it. My ex used to listen to music, sometimes that would bother me and he would have to put on his headphones or ear piece.

Sometimes I am watching TV and fall asleep, this just started, but then I wake up. I am back to waking up a few times during the night, for no reason, I think my mind is on overload.

I am sure people will come up with more ideas. I guess a good pair of soft ear plugs might work too.

Sweet dreams, Hugs, Nikko

P.S. Do you still have the AC on? It's still in the 90's here during the day, so at night it's still warm and the windows are shut with the AC on. I still use my fan though, for circulation and habit and it helps me.

Soon, well depending where you are - having the windows closed because of the cold nights, and that may help too.

Nikko

Hi Nikko,
You are up early.
It is still 90 degrees in the day. We have the ac on.

Can you believe that even the birds here seem loud??

Mari

Mari,

When we moved into our condo (8+ years ago) I had the same problem with noise. It was just so loud here, neighbors, the neighborhood, peoples loud cars, the road being close, etc...

I started leaving the radio or TV on all day so that I could focus on "good" noise instead of the bad distracting noise, and that helped a lot.... and then after about a month I was completely used to the neighborhood noises and they stopped bothering me.

After about 2-3 months I was so used to the neighborhood sounds that I didn't even notice them anymore. We had my parents and siblings here for dinner and my dad made a comment about a neighbor banging their door loudly and I hadn't even noticed the noise at all. I had gotten to the point where I didn't notice the noise and didn't hear it.

So, yes, you will get used to the noise. Until you do get used to it a radio or TV might help so that you can focus on a noise that you like.

I hope that you adjust to the neighborhood and the noises soon.

Take care,
Liz

when I moved from connecticut to manhattan it took me a while to get used to the noise but I did...i am sure you will get used to it...
is the bigger space helping you or is it still a shock to your system?
your husband sounds like a character.....sounds as if you have to work around him....
glad you gave yourself a pedicure...sounds like you need new sandals too....
do whatever it takes to make your life more comfortable.
the soap sounds great. I have been using tea tree pads for my face....i bought them from http://www.vitacost.com I am going to order more. I have been using those instead of soap and water and it is so much easier...saves on towels too.
I am sure you will adjust shortly to your new living space and to the lack of clutter. I wish you could hire a cleaning person once a month or something to help you out and to keep things under control. It might relieve some stress and I think we all do better with less stress. I would probably be bouncing off the walls now if my apartment was in the condition it was in in the beginning of the summer.
take care
bobby

Hi mari,
sorry for your noise issues at the new place.
I vote for a fan as well. I can't sleep without something making noise...
also have you ever tried ear plugs?
wonder if that would help?
glad that you found a skirt...i just started wearing them this summer...they can be fun!
I hope you can sleep tonight....
(((HUGS)))
bizi

Dear MyMorgy
I like that way you put that. It is perfect.
Years ago I narrowed down my criteria for a partner to one thing. I wanted someone who had a strong desire to talk to me about what was going on in his/her head. ...someone who wanted me to offer occassional advice.

I remember saying that I did not care if they were 1) in jail, 2) a republican, or 3) gay.
Then I decided that 1 or 3 would be ok but not 2. 2 would be completely unacceptable even if I got exactly what I wanted otherwise.

Well I got exactly what I want. Except hubby is a republican. That is what I get for being stupid enough to make such a list!!
(Also, I have since learned not to ask for/spell out what I don't want.)

He's a rock (and I need that), but with that comes some stubborness.

We've been together 11 years and lived together 1 year in October.

The living together is new for us.
We try to let each other have lots and lots of space, so to speak. The bigger apt will help with that eventually I hope.


Also, he exists somewhere on the functioning but un dx'd spectrum. And he has a few neuroses.

Mari

Hi Everybody,

Great responses.
I feel like an alert guard dog that doesn't know yet what sounds to worry about and so chooses to bark at all of them.
Or a car burglar alarm set to be so sensitive that even gentle rain sets it off.


I think I will turn on the TV and or radio again...at leaast during the day.
I remember my old psycholgist calling tv "orienting." He used to listen to TV before going to bed.

I might not try the fan thing right away. Since we moved in Sat night my teeth grinding diminished considerably. (I still wear the night guard.) I attributed that in part to the fact that I did not sleep with a fan. I might experiement with the fan later.

Earplugs sound worth trying. I threw out the ones I had but can buy them again at a drug store.

....not sure yet what the plan is for keeping the apt clean......
I'm looking forward to having my stuff out of boxes and my own computer set up so I don't have to kick hbby off his...

Mari

I went to say good bye to my old apartment. I shed a few tears and thanked it for helping me through many difficulties.

Then I turned in my keys.
Mari