how old is the car? could it still be under warranty?

Kay,

It is good to hear you out and about.

M

The window was working again when we got into the car yesterday (thank God), so obviously it will be an intermittent nuisance. We're not going to have it fixed. The car's a 2010, so the warranty's up. We purchased an extended warranty, and unfortunately that is up too.

The car will be paid off in October. My husband hates the car and can't wait to get rid of it. I was hoping to keep it for another year, put the money we were paying for it monthly in savings for a while, and then use that towards a downpayment on a new car, but the problem with the window helps make the case for trading it in earlier.

A lot of the reason why my husband hates the car is because it was so filthy. He had a huge smile on his face when he saw how good the car looked after I vacuumed it. He'll enjoy it more now… He should have cleaned it himself earlier.

We went to get cigarettes yesterday. It's about a 20 min drive each way. My husband said he was driving. He didn't understand why I was not happy about that… I just got my license back. I thought I kinda made sense for me to drive, and I wanted to, but I ended up caving 1) because I didn't want him to get mad because he thought I was being bitchy and 2) because I figured he freak out the whole way if he was next to the passenger side window if it wouldn't go down. We're going out to run a couple of errands today and I'm driving.

This push pull is normal I think, you know what he is like and you know how to deal with him.
I guess you have to pick your battles.
((((HUGS))))
bizi

Kay,

I am so happy to hear that you are back driving your car.:yahoo: :Bow: :trampoline:

M

I had to take an early nap again at about 11:30am yesterday and didn't get up until after 5pm!!! I didn't set an alarm, and for some reason my husband just let me sleep. So we never got to running errands. I still slept from 11:30pm-6 this morning.

I'm supposed to drop my car off at the dealership at 10:30 so they can take care of the recall. I think the last time I went through this they kept it because they ended up not having the parts in stock… I should call before I go to make sure they have them this time before I go.
My husband doesn't think the oil needs to be changed because there's only 21K miles on the car (and it's a 2010). So the last time the oil was changed I drove it in, and it's long overdue. So I'll have them do that, too.
I'm not even going to have them look at the window…

That $500 fine didn't exactly put us in a position to afford a costly repair right now. I'm SO glad that there will be no more fines and fees, no more cringing at the ATM withdrawing money over and over again for cab fare. I'm so lucky I had a clean driving record before this. Our insurance only went up $45/mo. which is far less than I expected and a lot less than what I was paying for in cab fare…
We'll be able to start saving money again now that this is over.

I'm going to pick up my prescriptions before I drop off the car. My husband was always bitching about driving me to the drugstore "all the time" (I take 9 prescriptions now and go 3-4 times a month), so it's something else I'm happy I'm able to do myself now…

I really don't know what he's going to do now that he won't have all these "favors" to hold over my head, or can't complain about further martyring himself now. Aside from the control aspect, I think that's part of why he wasn't thrilled at the prospect of me driving. I hope he feels a sense of relief that he doesn't have to do little things like that anymore and gets off the ****ing cross.

lol..even though this is really serious boy do you make me laugh.lol
bobby

yes what will he have to hold over your head....nothing!
bizi

K


Access to a working, insured, clean, favor-free car represents independence and so much more.
Keep finding enjoyment in your success.


M

Thank you ladies :group hug:
I don't mind you laughing in the least Bobby.

He will hold money, everything he's done for me in the past, and anything he does for me in the future over my head. It's the way he is. The nice thing is if we get in a fight now, I can get in the car and drive away.

I need to completely clean out the 3 cat boxes so I have to get a big bucket of litter to fill them after. It's like pulling teeth trying to get him to the pet store. I mentioned last night I could go today and someone at the store could put the litter in my basket, and then into my trunk for me. He got angry for some reason and said, "I don't know why you need to involve other people in our business." WTF?! So no one else is allowed to help me at all so I have to remain completely dependent on him… that's so controlling and territorial he may as well just pee on me! I haven't decided whether or not I'm going to go anyway. It's unlikely he'll take me until Saturday and the boxes will need topping off before then if I don't change them. I think it's silly to buy litter I'm going to throw away in a few days anyway.


The dealer had the parts for my car. They said with the oil change the wait would only be about an hour so I sat in the waiting room. I was there from 10:15am to just past 1pm. It guess it still made more sense than getting a ride home and getting one back though. They got me for $45 for an oil change and a tire rotation. It's been a long time, but I thought that was pretty steep.

While I was outside smoking a butt, I found a $10 bill. I felt guilty picking it up, but it ended up paying for lunch at McDonalds. I should have known better than to eat that crap. I felt like I was having a heart attack afterwards… bad karma I guess.