[mymorgy]

i wrote my girlfriend how staples isn't charging me for an item i bought and it was the wrong thing. they said to keep it. she said my vibrations are changing and that is why good things are happening. i wrote her back and said what about my eye and potential surgery and how she said there was no problem and her feelings are always right. I didn't mention the anxiety i am feeling towards my taxes which i won't work til sunday. i don't want another bad anxiety attack.
just had to vent
bobby

[OhKay]

I'm sorry Bobby

Maybe she though that this one event was just the start of better luck? And was trying to be encouraging?

Sorry, just trying to play devil's advocate here.

You have been having a rough time of it.


Kay

p.s. is this the same friend who doesn't believe in bipolar disorder?

[mymorgy]

yes it is the same girlfriend who doesn't believe in bipolar.
bobby

[Mari]

1. That appears to be her thing -- point out anytime one thing verifies her world view while ignorong the 99 other things that do not.
Methinks that she is in great need if she is having to go through that much mental gymnastics.


2. And why can't she just be neutral and friendly like this: "Oh, that was nice."
Why does she have to have things be about her?

[mymorgy]

that is so right on..and i hadn't thought that it was all about her...
thank you
bobby

[OhKay]

Originally Posted by mymorgy

yes it is the same girlfriend who doesn't believe in bipolar.
bobby

How did I know?

It seems like you have to ignore a lot of what this friend says in order to protect your feelings. Some people have to be right all the time, even if they have no clue. I'm sorry Bobby.


Kay

[mymorgy]

Originally Posted by OhKay

How did I know?

It seems like you have to ignore a lot of what this friend says in order to protect your feelings. Some people have to be right all the time, even if they have no clue. I'm sorry Bobby.


Kay

thanks so much. you are right. I am meeting her for coffee this morning. she will lecture to me. she is sort of my best friend and i know she means well. she is really into bryon katie. She also comes out with a lot of "truths" such as the more you develop the more God will test you. I hope that isn't true. I don't know where she got that from but i was too tired to argue.She thinks you can heal your childhood wounds if you follow bryon katie. I was badly emotionally hurt by my mother and father who was probably bipolar II also and i can tell myself they did the best they could do but the pain is still there.
my friend is convinced you can remove the pain.
bobby

[OhKay]

I think that telling yourself that your parents did the best they could is an act of forgiveness. That's a part of healing, and it's not an easy thing to do. I'm sorry that your childhood was painful
People heal to different degrees when it comes to childhood trauma, but no one forgets. My goal is to move past it.

We've gotten into Byron Katie a bit on one of your threads already, and it seems not one of us is impressed by The Work. And clearly, you are not either...

She doesn't seem to be the best confidant right now regarding the sources of your anxiety. Are there any things that you have in common with her that you can engage her in long conversations about so that you can avoid these lectures? Can you come up with some different talking points? Sometimes just having good company is enough.

I'm sorry that your good friend is a source of discomfort at the time being. I hope your time with her today goes better.


Kay

[bizi]

I think the pain eats away at our heart leaving a scar forever....
bizi

[mymorgy]

Originally Posted by OhKay

I think that telling yourself that your parents did the best they could is an act of forgiveness. That's a part of healing, and it's not an easy thing to do. I'm sorry that your childhood was painful
People heal to different degrees when it comes to childhood trauma, but no one forgets. My goal is to move past it.

We've gotten into Byron Katie a bit on one of your threads already, and it seems not one of us is impressed by The Work. And clearly, you are not either...

She doesn't seem to be the best confidant right now regarding the sources of your anxiety. Are there any things that you have in common with her that you can engage her in long conversations about so that you can avoid these lectures? Can you come up with some different talking points? Sometimes just having good company is enough.

I'm sorry that your good friend is a source of discomfort at the time being. I hope your time with her today goes better.


Kay

I had coffee with her and ran into cecilia at the coffee shop so we talked to her for a while. then there was another woman who is very talkative but interesting with a lot of information. she is usual.. she is 63 and having her hair done blue.
then stella and i had a good discussion and she explained more what she meant and said we were basically in the same boat. it turned into a nice morning.
bobby