Good talking to you today.:)
Thank you for suggesting that I try taking the abilify in the morning. I will wait till this weekend sunday to switch like you suggested.
You are such a good friend,
love you
bizi

No problem at all Bizi. I enjoyed talking with you, too :hug::hug::hug:

I love you too Bizi & Bobby :group hug:

You have a good memory Bobby! :)
Last weekend my husband FINALLY took out 1 out of the 6 pieces of furniture, but it was the biggest one. He said he may take one or two out today, but I don't have high hopes. I can't do anything with that room until he does, and it needs the most… a TON… of work. I would like to start working on that room ASAP, but take my time, and it will take a long time to clean because there's cat litter dust EVERYWHERE. Crossing that room off my list would be a HUGE weight off my shoulders.

I usually wash 2 loads of laundry a week at the same time. My husband gets really dirty at work, so it's mostly his clothes. I didn't do any regular laundry this week.

I'm glad Abby's enjoying her toys. You must be doing a really good job picking them out. We have toys everywhere. Sometimes they will hide them from each other and when they rediscover them it's like we bought them new ones. We had Chinese food last night and fed Buddy and Rocky little pieces of pork. They haven't had people food in a long time and they both puked. I think the dry puke you've been finding is from little hairballs.


With the application for the potentially new apartment complex, we had to submit a bank statement and 4 weeks of my husband's pay stubs. I included my SSDI benefit verification letter, but that's a very small amount of money. The lady in the office took a look at the paperwork and said we'll have no problem. She tried to tell the property manager that we would be willing to move in in the middle of July, and it seemed like she thought it would make him happy, but he was busy. I hope they can find an apartment for us soon… before we are forced to commit to another place because time starts to run out.

I'm mentally packing up the apartment in my mind now… as if I needed more stress. I can redirect myself better about that tho.
I know I'm going to have a hard time getting my husband to go through his **** and throw some things out. I've already decided that I will drag his bags, boxes, etc into the living room and put them in front of him to try to force him to sort through things if I have to. He can do it while he's watching TV.

I blew off food shopping yesterday, so I have to go today. I'll get an early start since I've been doing it all week and it's worked out well for me.
I'm also going to make my MIL brownies for Mother's Day. My mother passed away 20 years ago, August.

sorry about your mother kay
(((((HUGS)))))
bizi:grouphug:

Sad about your mother, Kay.:heartthrob: :heartthrob:

Good luck with getting your husband to go through this stuff.


I hate the stress/b.s. that appt places put on renters for cleaning.
That have to re-paint and such anyway.

When I was probably in my early 20s, and ready to move, the place announced that I had to pay a "carpet" fee.
I probably got "manic" on him and nicely asked him to show me the original
paper work in which I agreed to a fee. We spent some time on the matter.
I absolutely made clear that I would not pay it.

He probably got the money from some other fee, but I felt like it was a "win."



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I know that this is an intense time. You seem to be doing well.
I wish you the best.

M

I didn't think we paid a security deposit, but I guess we paid $99… big whoop. I'm sure they will try to get us to pay for smoke damage (they treat the walls before/when they repaint and replace the carpet). I don't know how much that would cost us. The cats also peed in the spare bedroom and I can't get it all up, although I will be trying to do a better job before we leave. If we move in the middle of July, the extra time will definitely help with that. The carpet should have been replaced before we moved in, and it is REALLY worn down now. If they give me a hard time, I will want to see records of when the carpet was last replaced. I expect them to take into account the wear and tear from 7 1/2 years we have lived here. I don't think I will pay for any carpet replacement fees because of that, maybe only the carpet in the "cat room." There is no other damage to the apartment aside from wear and tear, lingering water damage and poorly executed/unfinished repairs by and lack of attention from their maintenance staff. The place is a ****hole and it's not our fault. I will clean well, but I can't do anything about that. Maybe they will try to get us for something else? IDK. I don't have to be nasty, but I can be quite firm and unpleasant when I have to be. They could try to sue, but they would not fare well in court since we've been here so long.

The potential new place has two different complexes. One site has one building with apartments with balconies that overlook the river (they all have balconies tho), and those are the most expensive ones and they are $50 less than we are paying now including heat and hot water. We don't have a preference about which complex we move to. I think the apartments are the same, the complexes are fairly close together, and my husband's commute would be pretty much the same either way.

I made those brownies again. It took me half the time to make the batter because I'm familiar with the recipe now, and they came out better this time (more cocoa powder). The baking was relaxing. I split the 13X9" recipe into two 8X8" pans… one for us, one for my MIL. Hopefully she will be pleased. I bought a bow to go on top, but Rocky got into the bag and found it, and ate half of it, so no bow lol. She's a breast cancer survivor and there's a cancer walk every year where there's a family picture taken. I had 6 years of those pictures printed on a mug. I know she will love that.

I bought coin wrappers at Staples yesterday ($5 coupon) and sat down in the living room last night to sort through and roll up the change in our Poland Springs jug. That was a nice distraction. Everything is rolled ($207 so far) but the pennies. There's a HUGE pile of them still sitting in the middle of the living room floor lol. Hopefully I will get to those today…

I didn't take a nap. I don't get to spend a lot of time with my husband because I sleep so much, and he will be gone for a while tomorrow because he will be out with his mother. I got pretty testy because I was so tired though so I tried to not too talk too much.

My anxiety was high in the morning, but got much better later in the day, obviously because I was distracting myself. So, I just need to do more of that when I have some energy.

I've been having diarrhea because of my nerves. It's a nice change from not being able to go to the BR at all I guess, but I've lost about 3 1/2 pounds. I assume that's because I was backed up. I will be careful I don't lose too much though.

Take the pennies to the bank or( store if they have it)and they can use their machine. they charge a certain percentage of the amount but for pennies it would not be significant. Just a thought. Unless you like rolling up pennies :)
love to you today,
bizi

I rolled all the pennies and got $18! That's a total of $225! :)
I don't know how I will carry it all to the bank!
I wasn't rolling the change because we needed the money, but I thought it might be relaxing and could be a good distraction that wouldn't tire me out too much. It served its purpose. I picked out the wheat pennies. My mother used to do that. I doubt any of them are valuable, but you never know. I will clean them and check.

My mother-in-law LOVED the mug. My husband said she cried when she saw it. She hasn't tried the brownies yet, but I'm sure she's having one with her tea (in her new mug) about now.

My husband's step father asked him to do more yard work AGAIN next Saturday. He is always asking him to do something, but my husband never does anything HERE. I told him to say he had too much to do at home, but he said he would do it anyway. I was ******…
We had a long calm conversation last night where I told him that we don't have too many weekends left before we move, there is a lot to be done, and that needs to be his top priority. I told him that the work should be done slow and steady every weekend so that there is no mad dash to the finish line where he's breaking his back to throw a TON of **** out, AND move everything at once. He can do work on a Saturday or Sunday and have the other day to himself. I told him that we may have to cough up the money for movers to help move boxes and furniture if we can't get enough help… and he agreed with all of that. I'm sure I will have to continue to remind him of that conversation tho.

I didn't do anything aside from rolling the pennies yesterday. I told my husband I wasn't cooking him breakfast, so he ate his Fruity Pebbles. I even left dishes in the sink, which I never do. Part of that is because I ran out of pennies to roll and had to take 2 1/2 mg of Klonopin before noon.

That is a lot of change!!!!!!Did you leave some for the laundry mat?
have a good day kay!
bizi

I can't carry all that change at once. I think I will have my husband put it in two bags in the back seat and I will take two trips inside.

I do my regular laundry in the machines down the hall. We have to use laundry cards that can only be reloaded in the office. The machine will only take $5+ bills, which drives me crazy. It costs $3.50 to wash and dry one regular size load... very expensive. I pay at least $7/week, usually $14, but I can't haul all that laundry to the laundromat anymore, so I have no other option. I'm constantly going to the office to put more money on the card. It's a pain in the ***.

Yesterday I did two more loads of laundry and vacuumed, but I took my sweet time because I wasn't exactly motivated. At least when I laid down for my nap I accomplished something. I'm taking so much Klonopin right now it's even harder to get up from my naps, even tho I'm still only sticking to 2, and rarely 2.5mg a day :o

The plan for today was to empty the dirty cat litter and clean the boxes, but I will probably go out first/instead. It's going to be 88 degrees tomorrow and 93 Thursday, and I don't do well in the heat, so should stay in those days. I have to go to the mall to buy underwear because I had to throw out a couple of holey pairs that came out of the dryer yesterday.

I hope to get another early start.

I checked my bank accounts online before I went shopping, and there was a $35 pending charge for Dominos even though I haven't ordered from them in months. The store number associated with the transaction is the one I order from. No payment information is stored in my Dominos online account.

So I had no idea what was going on, but I immediately went into panic mode. Just what I ****ing needed…

I called the store and the kid on the phone said he had already gotten a bunch of calls, and gave me another number to call, then I was given another number… when I got a woman on the phone, she said she didn't know what was going on because they only have the last 4 digits of customers' card numbers (I don't believe that is true). She said that she would know more when the manager came in. She told me I would have to give her my whole card number before they could issue a refund.

I went to the bank to deposit my change and I asked them about the issue with Dominos. The manager told me not to give them my whole debit card number, or any other information, because it sounded to her like they had been hacked, probably internally, in some way. She told me to cancel my debit card, put in a claim, and let the bank recover the money. After checking to make sure none of my automatic payments were associated with my debit card, I withdrew $200 and cancelled my card. I should have a new one in 3-5 days. I don't like the idea of being without it at all tho.

The woman from Dominos called me back. Even though the only info I had given her was my name and phone number, she was able to tell me the last purchase I made there was on March 7th and the amount was the same. She said that they closed the store for three weeks for renovations, and when they shut the computers off, those transactions obviously weren't processed until the computers were turned back on after the renovations…
So I went online and checked my Dominos account and March 7th was the last time I ordered from them, but I looked at my checking account and I was charged for that purchase, so that's bull****.

I called the lady back to relay that information, and I told her that they have a bigger problem than they think, and should consider hiring someone to come in and help them before the problem gets out of control.

Not having my debit card will be a pain in the ***, but I caught the issue early, so I don't have to worry about it anymore :)