[OhKay]

When my husband got home from work yesterday, the door barely closed behind him before he went into a tirade about his job. He's at his breaking point. They have him consistently driving 3+ hours a day and he's had it. The other guys are working closer to home. He hasn't spoken up, so his boss figures he doesn't mind, but in the meantime he's let it fester. He's also more than frustrated by disorganization in the company. He's intensely unhappy.

He said he's going to talk to his boss, but I don't know if he can keep his cool. If I were to tell him to try to stay calm, I know he would tell me not to treat him like a child. I'm afraid he's going to quit, and we definitely can't afford that.

He talked about finding another job, but doesn't want to work in the same field. I don't know if he could find something unrelated for the same pay. I will look online today to see if I can find something that might appeal to him. He has a friend who owns his own company, who he used to work for, and would probably take him on at his current pay, but I don't know if my husband is interested in doing that kind of work anymore.

He said he didn't sleep again last night. His anxiety is keeping him awake. He only had a couple of beers last night. I think he should try taking the 25mg of Benadryl before bed as long as he hasn't been drinking heavily until his anxiety quiets down. I know this is not ideal, but lack of sleep is making everything worse.

This morning he was in a terrible mood. He said he needs a vacation… or something. I told him to call out sick tomorrow. He said, "It's just one more ****ing day."

His temper is alarming, but I feel so badly that he is suffering. I wish I could help more, but I don't know what to do, and even if I did, I don't think he would let me.




I ****ed up my right hip (the good side) yesterday bringing in groceries. I'm not supposed to take NSAIDS because I'm on lithium, but the Tylenol did nothing, so I ended up talking Aleve, which didn't help either. I had my leg elevated and out to the side. My husband never asked about it. He would have considered it nothing compared to what he was going through, so I never mentioned it.

It feels worse this morning. There are things I probably could/should be doing around the apartment today, but I'm going to rest. I'll probably break out the heating pad to see if that helps at all.


Today is day 1 back on the South Beach Diet. My weight this morning is 166lb. I'm going to fry up a batch of turkey bacon and make a salad so those things will be ready for breakfasts and lunches for a couple of days.

[bizi]

Thank you for sharing kay.
It helps to see what is going on with your hubby's job and why he has been lashing out to you.
I hate that he does this.
Maybe you could find him a better job.
It is hard to know salaries because monies are not usually discussed until the interview process. then you have to take in benefits co pays meds coverage etc. I just started looking at our plans.

I am sorry about your hip.
Glad that you are going to take it easy today...yes use the heating pad!
(((((HUGS)))))

bizi

[Mari]

Kay,

Sorry to hear about your hip.

Does your hair color not bother you as much a few days later?

Did you say that your husband drives (commutes) than many hours to work??


That is a lot of driving.


M

[OhKay]

My husband came home in a better mood, and was much calmer yesterday (thank God). He said he appealed to his boss about all the driving, and asked if there was anything he could do. He didn't really push the issue with him, and didn't really get a response. I hope he starts to see enough change to make his job more tolerable.

He has been driving 3 or more hours a day, whether it's to one or more jobs, and it seems like he's been the only one stuck doing it day in and day out. His boss sends him to ridiculously far away places, even though sometimes there are guys who live much closer, and/or his boss does not plan well and sends him to jobs that are very far apart from one another, even though another guy may be available close to the second job. Apparently his boss is inept, and unable to handle the stress of his position well.

I told him I had been looking for jobs yesterday, and he asked me not to. I said I was just trying to help, and if he could think of a way I could, to let me know.


The Pats played last night, and my husband was able to stay up until halftime. He only had a few beers, so he took Benadryl again. I was up until after 11 watching the game, and it seemed like he was fast asleep by the time I got to bed, but I didn't get the opportunity to ask him how he slept this morning because I didn't wake up until 7am!
I enjoyed watching the game. Our third string quarterback led the team to a 27-0 shut out win over the Texans… amazing. I'm so happy the two back up quarterbacks won in their first NFL starts. It must be like dreams come true for them. Plus, I don't mind my team winning


I have chronic hip and knee pain from my gait disorder, and have a cyst in the right hip where I've been having the trouble. I get flare ups, and have been to PT for related issues a couple of times in the past.
It feels much better this morning. I think the rest and the heating pad helped.

The plan is for more rest today.