I had this strong loyalty streak and would carry it to an extreme. there was a lot of self sacrifice. yesterday something changed. I really like alicia and she does minimal housework. One time she didn't even clean the bathroom. a lot of times she doesn't clean the bathroom sink. she doesn't vacuum and she is done in an hour maybe. she isn't allowed to come today because of something to do with paperwork. she is also an animal lover and feeds 10 feral cats and donates clothes to people. she is so pleasant. if her replacement does a good job of cleaning i will ask her if she wants to be my permanent aide. that would be a first. It goes against my nature.