Yes. It's all that.

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It's not so much that I am going out of my way to consider his issues, he is sticking to his system -- very habit driven -- and nothing I can do to work
around some of them.

He's undiagnosed ADD/ADHD and some verision of Autism/ Aspergers.

Work buddy, without prompting noticed hubby's ADD and mentioned it
to me when I brought it up.
Some do not notice what it is but others might notice something off, and
others like Work Buddy alert to it.


Not so much with me but with others, hubby can wander off if they are talking and then says something to make them think he is following along.

With other things he can focus for loooong periods of time.
He is definitely a creature of habit. He absolutely follows a routine 100%.

When he is stressed I have had to make an appointment to talk briefly
to him about something I think is important. He agrees we will talk when he
finishes whatever he thinks is important.

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If we are both upset all bets are off.

M

Your husband sounds like a complicated man. I'm sorry that things are so challenging for you, Mari

I am glad he has his good points. at times he sounds like an overgrown child.

Yes, re the child.


Except children are more flexible I believe.