I will make a plan to stop by maybe Saturday after I have to get my haircut.

That has been our routine lately anyway --- for me to stop by when I am already out in my car.

It really does help to ignore things or block things out :hug::hug::hug:

I'm glad that you are sleeping and your mood is okay. It sounds like you are really doing better now that you don't have to go to work- do whatever you have to do that works for you (((HUGS)))

It makes perfect sense to visit your friend while you're already out.
I hope your hair comes out nice on Saturday :)

I saw my friend at her home for the first time in awhile.


Her house is a mess.
She does mostly take care of the 3 cats but not much else.

I tried to vacuum but had a hard time dealing with the frightening ancient machine.
It was so huge it was like trying to tame a beast.

I would pay for a cleaning service EXCEPT that hubby told me no f-ing way.

Sister said I can buy (1) a light-weight cheapish vacuum and (2) a mop-thing at Walmart that I can probably manage.
Sis even texted a picture of the mop-thing she uses.



M

you are such a wonderful friend.

Cat fur is such a plague, you are a good friend to her.
(((((HUGS))))))
bizi

You really are a very good friend to her for even wanting to clean up- never mind trying to :hug::hug::hug:

Those lightweight vacuums can be very inexpensive (some are worthless, especially for cat fur tho), and maybe a swifter could work on the floors?

You are amazing, Mari. I hope you are doing well (((HUGS)))

Yes, Kay,

She relies on the swiffer-thing.
I would buy that tool as well.
Do they have have a smell? I am so sensitive to chemicals.


At home, for cleaning products we only use Seventh Generation Soap, Vinegar, and, on very rare occasions, a little watered down Bleach.


M

Yes, the wet swifter pads and spray tanks have a fairly strong odor.
But if she has the cheap one that doesn't have the tank on the back and the spray trigger, you can pinch wet or dry pads onto it. And you could wet the dry pads a little, and spray any cleanser you like as you go. It's not ideal, but it's worked pretty well with bleach for me before, so it should stand up to your natural cleansers. I just wouldn't use anything that has too much residue or too many suds.

I hope that helps :hug:

Thank you, Kay,:)


After reading that, I realize there is no way I can deal with the swiffer stuff due to my multiple sensitivities to chemicals and such.


Friend has tile floors.

I'm so confused because I want to pay a service and cannot see myself
doing any cleaning.

Maybe I'll drive to see her Sunday / today because there will be less traffic than
there is during the week.

M

Cleaning her place is not your responsibility, Mari but I can understand why you would want to make sure that she is living in a healthy environment. You really are a good friend :hug::hug::hug:

Paying hourly is one option. You could get a quote to just hire someone to come in to clean the kitchen and bathroom, etc... just the areas of the most concern. That wouldn't be too expensive, and something you could negotiate with your husband. When I was a home health aide, I could clean a kitchen, bathroom, and vacuum a smallish place in less than an hour because that's the only time I had to do it, but I don't know how housekeepers work...

She may also qualify for some home services at a low cost that could include cleaning since it sounds like she is very ill, and home-bound. That's something her brother could look into.

I hope that you are doing well, and taking care of yourself (((HUGS)))