welcome!!
bobby

Friend's brother#1 had returned from his two-week trip to Germany/ Europe.
Brother#2 was driving from many states away and expected to arrive at dinner time.
I left before dinner.



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She and I talked a bit.
She said that she's moving in with the first brother, partly
because her docs do not want her driving anymore.

That puts her a six hour drive from me so I would not be seeing her.

I don't trust her brothers to appropriately handle what's left of her money.
Both of them are grifters.


M

I am glad that she has family to step in to provide a home for her.
Sorry that you will lose a friend.....
I am sure there are a lot of mixed emotions for you...maybe you could help her pack?
(((((HUGS)))))
bizi

that is so sad.
bobby

Hi,

I'm happy to hear that it helps you.

Hello, and welcome!

I'm so glad that gabapentin is helping you! Yes, it can make you sleepy, especially before you adjust to it.

Mari,

Why can't your friend can still control her own finances?
I thought that she was moving just because she can't drive.
Is that something her brother(s) are insisting upon?

I can understand your concerns about her moving away. You will be unable to see her, and you won't be able to check up on her welfare. I'm so sorry (((HUGS)))

I hope that everything works out, and these brothers of hers end up being better men than they appear/seem to be, and she gets good care without getting preyed upon.

Kay,

She and I did briefly talk about money but she has rarely been open about it even to me. She said she has been approved by the state (disability??) . . . . . . . I don't know.
I asked her if she could keep up her mortgage payment while not living in her house. She said that she could and told me the amount but I forgot because it did not matter to me.


Before he left for the Germany trip, her younger brother told me that he had gone with her to help her officially quit her job and take the money out of her 401K.
That seems controlling but she does need help and she had stopped going to work.

Years ago, when he wanted to buy property, he had the cash but not the credit so she co-signed.
Since then, he has bought duplexes that he rents out.

That same brother is in a city with the best hospital in the state so I can
hope that she can get good medical care. I trust him somewhat wrt her
care.

It's hard for me to know exactly know what is going on about the driving.
She can't deal with much. Except for when I saw her in the ER, she has been strongly medicated. The hospital sends a car for her and then sends her back home.

I don't like the older --and very broke -- brother at all. He drove from across the country to be at her place a little after dinner time. I left a few minutes before he arrived.
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M

It is hard to know exactly what is going on in this situation, but I get the impression from what you said that your friend is competent, and knows what's going on with her finances, but she's in a vulnerable situation and it sounds like she may be, at the very least, suggestible.

I hope that the younger brother can be trusted with her care, and that she will get good care at the hospital near him... unlike the care she got at the hospital you visited her at

Would you feel comfortable asking her any kind of questions about her brothers? I know that you probably wouldn't be, but I thought I would ask anyway.

I'm sorry that you have so many worries about this situation. It sounds like based on history, you have a right to them (((HUGS)))

You are a good friend and good judge of character. I hope your friend stays healthy enough to keep track of things. Especially taking out her 401K. Could be a large sum that temps unscrupulous brother to "barrow", or worse.

You sound like you are feeling better. I hope so.