Gee, If he refuses to go for now. Go ahead and do an individual therapy session. Just tell hubby it was originally to help the situation so you both could work on the problems. So since he believes it's all you. Your going to.Go.Have some sessions to.see if the doctor can help you figure out how to.help you work.it out.


I'm proud of you. And Love that you faceted with.sis and nephew

Donna- So even if it's with my GP? or should I try to find a therapist and go? Btw folks, i did message my GP with how hubby reacted about all this, so maybe he'll have a suggestion too.

Funny thing (well, not so much haha but I think hubby might be getting desperate now) he had a sincere and calm chat with me tonight about some things...actually I'm not even sure if much of it was related to this specific issue, but he wanted to calm down and cuddle with me and talk about sweet things. Gosh! It's weird how I'm struggling to remember all the specifics right now...and that idea that he might just be getting desperate just hit me now... I know we talked a lot about my conversation with my sis throughout the night...well, i kept mentioning things, but he seemed to enjoy them too. We talked about our intimate feelings and needs and he seemed genuinely interested in helping fulfil my needs but he seems scared to try. Says he wants to but can't kind of things...i guess this started off as a convo about how he thinks I've changed. I told him that I haven't really changed, I'm just not as shy anymore about being myself and saying what I need and want. I don't know what all this means now, honestly, but it was a super comfortable and relaxing cuddle. I actually fell asleep in his arms. (((Awe))) :P

that is so wonderful! so wonderful. how old is your nephew?
fondly
bobby

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I'm glad for you, G! :) Sounds like progress!

Gee,

I think going ahead and seeing your regular doctor alone this time is fine. You can ask for a referral at the end to an therapist and. Thank him her for listening and being there for you when you needed to talk. When I first needed to have someone listen about my SOns issues even though their pediatrician did. My own doctor would ask how everything was going at home. Sometimes when things were all breaking at once I would tell her the problems. She once asked me if I had anxiety and would like medicine for it.

It's honestly how I started getting my first med help for my anxiety. I was working to find groups on my own. But she also

Gee,

I think going ahead and seeing your regular doctor alone this time is fine. You can ask for a referral at the end to an therapist and. Thank him her for listening and being there for you when you needed to talk. When I first needed to have someone listen about my SOns issues even though their pediatrician did. My own doctor would ask how everything was going at home. Sometimes when things were all breaking at once I would tell her the problems. She once asked me if I had anxiety and would like medicine for it.

It's honestly how I started getting my first med help for my anxiety. I was working to find groups on my own. But she also keep asking to make sure I was ok

Thanks folks! But I'm still skeptical about his intentions...I mean, I know he loves me, but I think he's really afraid to have outside support. I dunno. :/

Donna (and everyone)-Doctor replied to me this morning. Says he supports me seeking talk therapy and psychiatry. He didn't say anything about our current appointment. I'm assuming he doesn't really have much more to say about it (??) I was kinda hoping he might even message my husband, but I suppose he doesn't have the time for that kind of thing and it might not really be professional (??) I can still ask him for recommendations, although he did say "close to home". I'm not too confident about finding someone local though, but it sounds like I'm going to have to do some research...that is if hubby even is willing to pay for any of this, which I have some serious doubts. Like I said, I'm a little concerned he's being "nice" so that I don't feel I need to get outside help. Ya know? So, I'm a little anxious again. I know I'm going to need to have another talk with him sooner or later, but maybe I ought to have a more solid plan before that happens. If for some reason he doesn't pay for these services, would you folks still "be here" for me?? I'm worried that you'll get frustrated with me because I can't do everything that's been suggested. (this has actually happened with another community and I'm really kinda sad that that happened and that they don't really understand how to support me or console me. :( I may have also just acted out as a result of my frustrations in not being able to fix that either. I'm feeling twice as bad-bad because they don't know how to help and bad because I was reduced to acting petty and perhaps, passive aggressive. I'm just so frustrated and tired and they don't seem to understand that I'm already feeling these intense feelings because of my relationship and circumstances at home. Hubby has also just recently lost his bonus and we have to watch our spending again because of this dreaded CV. This seriously couldn't have come at a worse time...well, I'm afraid of that and afraid I'm going to lose everything...or "everything" ...again. ugh!!! I should be more grateful!...on that note...my cute little adorable nephew... ;) )

bobby-my nephew is about 3, i think. ;)

I wish I knew the answer to all this, G! The CV has compounded the problem. But you still have the forums, & you know a number of us who care, whom you can get support from, at least. And maybe sometimes we can help. So try to hang in there & have faith that things will get better in time. God bless you, dear friend! :grouphug: :hug: :circlelove:

Gee,

I can't speak for anyone else but as long as you are just looking for some honest help which is what you have done so far. I'm pretty sure we will be here. I know that I can. I'm not honestly sure if there would be some of your problems that might trigger someone to have an bad memory, that I believe would be when someone couldn't continue to try and help.

Now I'm going to also suggest you might benefit from just also having a group to talk to. So I'm going to suggest you look into whether there is an Nami support group close to you. Now this is

The National association ofMental health.

But I think.Just going and listening, then talking when your comfortable would help a lot.

Keep coming and talking
Donna

I haven't been here much but I'm here now, kind of :grouphug: