Bobby

I hope things continue to stay good. I am glad you bought some depends.

My mom for about the last 5 years of her life wore them all the time. Because
with her problems with her hips and knees she wasn't always able to get
to the bathroom. And like you she hated the problems that came up.
So she was much happier when she could just change the depends.

I hope you find something you can eat too.

Donna :hug::grouphug:

I would suggest eating some cheese but that

can contribute to constipation.
what about nuts not peanuts like brazil, pecans, almonds, avocados which you can easily cut them in half the seed pops out with a spoon then eat the flesh right out of the shell. delicious and so good for us. It has a lot of fiber.
ham slices, turkey slices.just some things that came to mind.
of course chicken salad, egg salad, tuna salad, all with mayo that doesn't have any carbs. sunflower seeds are great pumpkin seeds are great get the ones that are already shelled.
good luck bobby.
love
bizi

i am not at all like your mother was. when i was around sixty i had some accidents and bought depends. i never went to the doctor. i don't think i had an infection. after a couple of months it stopped-weird.
I bought them again because i let myself wet my bed a couple of times after this last fall. my leg was hurting so much and i was exhausted and i was afraid i might fall again. using the walker is such a pain. i am not sure when i am going to use them again. my leg is still hurting and i haven't been that exhausted. i might have wasted my money. your poor mother.

i just remembered for so many years i was such a fussy eater. i was very thin. the doctor tell my mother to feed me. i was content with warm bosco in a special pan and eye of the round with no fat and peanut butter, lamb chops and lobster. i guess it is really weird that now the thought of most food gets me nauseated. i do love nuts but they are hard to digest and fattening. finally i love cheese but that is constipating and fattening..Red MEAT CAN BE VERY BAD FOR YOU but the thought of that is now nauseating. i guess i will eat more chicken. i have been throwing that out. i was eating greens but i an't stand them now. i stopped with the ice cream because it is fattening. i don't like fish. i love pastry and cakes and i eat those.
last night and through the night my stomach hurt much as usual from my IBS-c. the magnesium citrate didn't work and so in the morning i drank another bottle and was terrified that the final laxative didn't work. two bottles of it finally worked. i immediately ordered fifty more bottles.
I think i am going to order egg drop soup and noodles with a little beef.
that is fattening to but i don't immediately feel nauseated.
my buying spree has stopped and i still haven't had any liquor,
i don't think now the news i constantly watch upsets me. i am so inspired by the Ukranians and their president and all the countries showing so much humanity. If the madman Putin blows up the earth so be it.

Bobby

I was just explaining even my mother had to have them sometimes.

And I've had them in the house in case I started getting diarrhea. That
is a totally different story from years ago. Because I hated to have to
buy underwear all the time. But it was because I couldn't get my system
under control. This is nothing to do with you. THis particular one I'm
only talking about something in the past about 15 years ago that happened
to me. I also had to have 3 colonospies to try and figure out why it was
happening. Went to 3 different doctors for the stomach. Have to say not
a one of those doctor's figured out anymore than that I had not the worse
thing. But the other one. Darn it I can't think of the name right now.

I will later and return to give you the name. Ugh I hate when my mind
wont give me the name of the thing.

Donna :hug::grouphug:

your family have and has so many physical and mental heath issues. it is so very sad. did either of your grandparents have any of these mental and physical issues. ? how about on your husband's side.
fondly.
bobby

i am so exhausted and my leg is still really hurting. progress is tiny. i don't take naps but i did yesterday and i know i will take one today. i have no energy whatso ever. it is very scary. i am still watching a lot of news. finally last night i didn't have a stomach ache. i hate ibs-c and bipolar.
still not buying clothes.

Bobby
I honestly know very little about my grandparents, and Dale's grandparents were gone mostly before he was very old. But no mental health that we know of on those sides. My mom's side though my grandfather had lots of health issues
so its possible that they never knew. If I remember correctly he was a polio
survivor. Her mother before she died was a worker in the family, her dad
couldn't work. So she held multiple jobs, in arkansas.

My dad's dad died when he was 16, and his mother. Yes, I'd say she had mental
issues, but can't for sure. We don't know a lot.

My mom was very strong. And my dad, had nothing, he worked all the time.
But died right at the time he would have retired. He had cancer at 60 years old.

Then came the mental issues.

Dales side, yes the kids in my kids ages do have some issues. My niece, has
mental issues. My mother-in-law was always worried that her mother was
not getting the issues. And finally one day asked me if I thought maybe,
it might be heridetary, because she might have been depressed too.
And asked me to go over and explain Dan's issues. So I did. And her mother
told me thank you. She really appreciated me giving her the history I knew
for Dan and his troubles. Because she hadn't know that he had more than
a little bit of trouble.

So yes, its run in the family for a while.

Donna :hug::grouphug:

i am so sorry.
fondly,
bobby

Donna, you have such a way of calming down the family, you really are the glue that holds your family together.
((((((HUGS)))))
bizi

i hate being bipolar. i have been torturing myself all morning. i have made awful decisions. i am so depressed. i would repeat them. what a horror.

it is a nightmare. i got on the floor to plug in a kindle and couldn't get up. it is so frustrating. i was expecting a porter to bring up packages. he came and helped me to get up if he hadn't come i would have crawled to reach the phone and call downstairs for help. right now i am shaking. i am so certain it will take a long time to heal rats.
i am feeling so sorry for myself.

(((((HUGS AND LOVE)))))
bizi

Hugs and Love is so right. I wish we all had answers.

Wish I could reach out and hug you in the computer.

Donna :hug::grouphug:

Bobby

If you have someone that comes tomorrow. Even if you don't have
the extension cord and things to plug the kindle in at a place you
don't have to get on the floor to do it yet. When they come tomorrow
see if they will help you figure out exactly what you need to do that.

Then you can order online if necessary the things you need.
And when Marci comes next hopefully the things will have come in
so you can hook it up so you know you can plug it in.

Donna :hug::grouphug:

i don't understand your post at all.
today
i got on the floor to plug in the cable. i totally forgot that because of my leg i can't get up. i did what i usually do now and sit on the chair and connect the kindle.. everything was fine.
sometimes i even forget to take the walker. i am not used it.
fondly,
bobby

Bobby

It didn't make sense that you just got on the floor, I didn't realize
you usually get on a chair. That was the reason for my post.

So I'm sorry it didn't make sense. I was trying to help so next time
you wouldn't have to sit on the floor to hook the cable up.

I personally can't ever get on the floor without someone to help
me get up. I'm working on it. But I don't have the strength I need
in my ankles. I haven't figured out a way to get that strength in them.

SO I always put my wires next to the couch so I have a way to plug in.

I didn't mean to mix you up, or confuse you.

Donna :hug::grouphug:

hi
i also didn't have a clue about waiting until tomorrow and then getting on line to buy something. my issue was simple i just couldn't get up.that i couldn't figure out what was in your head that you introduced all those variables.
before my latest fall most of my time when i am not doing something i do spend a lot of time sitting crossed legged on the bed or floor or just lying on the bed. only when i use the computer do i sit on a chair. it is so easy to plug the cable into the front of the computer to let it charge.
I AM GREEN WITH ENVY AT YOUR INCREDIBLE ATTITUDE
HOW DID YOU DEVELOP THAT INNER STRENGTH THAT YOU DEAL WITH SO MANY HORRIBLE ISSUES AND RETAIN SUCH A POSITIVE ATTITUDE
I would so love it if you could instruct with how to deal my depression. this afternoon i tried to sleep to avoid my painful feelings. i did pray a lot to God for help. i couldn't change my over all negativity. i am excellent at not accepting things or awful feelings. I wish you could help me.
my p.t. gave me exercises to strengthen my legs i am hardly doing them because i am so depressed and tired. i know if you google strengthening your ankle you can come up some exercises. i don't know if your insurance covers physical therapy. i know with time you can strengthen it.
love,
bobby

here is one

Toe-Heel Walking. Transferring your weight from your heels to the front pad of your foot and help to build stronger muscles throughout your foot and ankle. This exercise doesn't require too much balance and no additional props other than your own body.

does it require foot ware or do you do this bare footed?

i love beautiful shoes and used to wear them all the time. i still have some bruno magli. now i really hate wearing shoes and am always barefoot unless i have to go downstairs or out of the building. james has never commented that i don't wear shoes.
i have been up most of the night reading a great book. i will get more by her.
it put me in a great mood. also today i hardly used the walker. i did rely on walls and tables etc but i didn't fall.
donna i still can't figure out a while ago when you wrote that allergy season was coming up and i should look at the calendar when i have repeatedly mentioned that i never had allergies until i got the vaccine. I didn't get your weird response or assumption or simply not paying attention. not paying attention.. my allergies are gone now so i no longer have the effects from the vaccine.
love
bobby

Bobby

I haven't mentioned the allergies until now in a while. So just forget
I said that. I can't tell you what I meant. Its been to long.

I have no memory of what i meant.

I'm so glad you found a book you like, and have been up reading.
I do that a lot too. Get into a good book and read till its done.
Then go to bed. I love to read.

Donna :hug::grouphug:

do you have any other suggestions that can help me accept things the way you do?
i can't seem to take anything in stride and you are a master.
love
bobby

i think my major problems stem from not getting nurtured but rather be given the main role of caretaker when my father drunk. after that i became the family scapegoat. i think all the other stuff really isn't that important. maybe there is no help or hope.
the other night i talked with sam and he kept on saying how great it was that i went to an ivy league school. that really depressed me. i did not think the university of penn was a great school. if i graduated from Radcliffe i think that would meant something. i just feel so hopeless.

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Bobby

Let me think on it. Honestly I don't think of the nurturing things.

I just kind of do them. So lets figure out what you can do.

Like when Sam, tells you it was great you went to a Ivy league School.

Maybe tell him back: You didn't realize others think of it as a Ivy
league school. You don't to you its just a school. So if it had been
say Harvard it would have been a Ivy League school. (I can't remember
the one you said)

Also when he wants to talk about other things and seems to see you
as the best thing, turn it around. And tell him to you . He is the
best thing right now. Because he is calling and talking to you. Which
right now you really need. Even if its also something he really needs
and enjoys. So you really, really enjoy it.

Tell him it gives you a feeling that you might be giving someone some
nurturing things.

I personally don't think I nurture others. I just see what they might need.
And I then do it. I also see you doing that for your friends that call you.
So try doing that with Marci a little. You were giving her things, but instead
try talking to her. Asking her some questions.

Donna:hug::grouphug:

thanks so much.
love,
bobby

the past is past

i talked with my friend joyce. she said she didn't get any nurturing either. she said just take of myself and my kitties and have in God.

Bobby
Also I used to read a lot of Chicken Soup books. I read many
of them. Just whatever I could find.

Donna :hug::grouphug:

i haven't read any of those. for a while now i read regency historical romance novels. great escapism

oh those books are so good donna, real stories that usually make me cry.
Chicken soup for the soul is one of their many chicken books.
Perhaps you could get one for your kindle, do you have a kindle?
not sure.
bizi

I think she does. I'm going to look into getting one for my
new fire.

And Bobby, I've; even read the Cats and Dogs one. It was so good.

I have to say, I love them all:
parents, grandparents, teens(heehee), what ever else strikes my fancy.

Donna :hug::grouphug:

the good news is i really like the bristol cream, i drank a lot last night. it helped get rid of some of the pain. wouldn't it be funny if i turned into a drunk like my father lol. he was no longer drinking in his seventies. all those calories.
i still had a stomach ache through the night. i forgot to take my laxative last night. i hate my walker. i am not sure when i will schedule next p.t. session. my leg still hurts but it is much better but i can hardly walk without it.
yesterday i got a big shock. i had to pay 375 for a medication. this is new. the pharmacist cheerily said i will only have to pay around 970 more. on monday i am going to apply for praulent's patience assistance program.
life is a bed of roses with mostly thorns.
i hope i can read now. i feel so miserable physically and mentally.

Older adults with GAD appear to use alcohol at an increased rate, but mild-to-moderate drinkers do not appear to experience sleep difficulties. In fact, use of a modest amount of alcohol may be beneficial for minimizing the association between anxiety/worry and insomnia among older adults with GAD.


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Drinks that have an alcohol content greater than 15 percent have an inhibitory effect on peristalsis. This means that alcohol slows down gastrointestinal motility, which can lead to constipation. Conversely, beverages with lower alcohol contents can increase gastric emptying rates. Examples include wine and beer.

thank God for kitty cats.

what does bristol cream taste like. It is a liquor, right?

it is a sherry