[Mari]

Anyone with half-way reasonable parents is lucky.

M.

[bizi]

I have been thinking about you.
You can get thru this....
I think you are doing well, keeping up with work hubby and it being hurricane season and all. This is a bad timeof the year for them to come for a visit.....
((((HUGS))))
bizi

[Nikko]

I hope the visit is less stressful than it seems.

You can pull through this, your stronger than you think.

Hang on tight.

Hugs, Nikko

[mymorgy]

if you feel like sleeping while they are here SLEEP.....two against one...they are a team even though you have your husband....
i feel so sad for you because I had parents who worked as a team. As I mentioned, when I visited them when I was older I used to vomit when I got to their home....violently....
just try to protect yourself...if you can...I couldn't
Bobby

[Pamster]

I am so lucky my mom is so wonderful to us. She really understands and wants to help, not interfer and try to run my life like I know so many other parents try to. I think she's awesome, today when my computer died this morning I called her and had already asked her if she'd help us get a Dell to replace mine because the Hard Drive has been making funny noises. So today when it was a total Hard Drive failure I asked her for help and she ordered us the new computer right then.

I wish everyone had a mom like mine. She's something else. Going to be sixty this year and still looks wonderful to me. I sure hope things go well for their visit Mari. I'll be thinking about you and them and keeping you in my prayers. I know it's not easy sometimes, to deal with parents, but they do love you right? Try to keep it in mind if you can and definitely SLEEP when you have to sleep. I know how much trouble sleep gives you, my T told me about a new sleep medicine, I forget the name but it works like Melatonin. I'll get the name next visit. It started with an R and kinda sounded like Ronicin or something.

Hope all is well with you and you don't have much anxiety about their upcoming visit. Keep us posted.

[bizi]

IT is rozeram and hope it works for some...did nothing for me...
unfortunately.
hang in there, sleep when you can, try to enjoy them if you are able...

((((HUGS))))
bizi

[befuddled2]

Mari,

Take plenty of deep breaths when needed while your parents are there.

befuddled2

[Mari]

Thanks.
Last night when I had to talk to each for 5 mins, I was angry with them -- mostly Dad.

This morning I called Mom and told her that I had boxes everywhere and could use her help. She said that she would be happy to help.
After I got off the phone, I cried.

I really do find this visit overwhelming.
They are not easy people to deal with. I really and truly treat them better than their other children but I get sooo much more grief from them. I am the oldest. Maybe that mattesr.

Today (Wednesday) Dad emailed me their flight information. This after he made the reservations months ago. He is a control freak and knows where he is going to be months ahead of time but apparently cannot extend the same curtesey to me. It's not like I care or not if I get the flight info. If I never get the info, they can take the shuttle to my apt because for the past 10 months they have had my address.

My mom was last here over 15 years ago. It did not go well.
She has huge anxiety issues/anorexia/talks about food all the time/and so on. And I can't say much nice about my father right now. Dad used to visit me regularly for a while when I was single and he needed help with a project. We got along ok. He wasn't drinking as much as he is now.


Last summer I visited them and we all agreed it was a disaster. I decided never to see them again. Dad solved that problem by deciding to come see us. If I can't visit them and I can't have them visit me, I would have to stop visiting them. This makes me very sad.

I don't want to break up with my parents. . . .

With them it is never the case that the buildup to the visit is worse than the actually visit. Most times, the visit is worse than I imagined.

I need to practice thinking positively.

And yes, I have made plans to make sure that I sleep.

M.

[Mari]

He left out of his email any mention of what time he and Mom are leaving.
Sometime Monday I guess.
Maybe they should get their own ride to the airport.

Mari

[Pamster]

How long are they staying and are they staying with you and your hubby or are they getting a hotel room? It's not easy being the oldest from what I understand. I sure wish you luck in dealing with this visit. I think you're probably right and that they buildup is worse then the visit. Waiting is never easy, be it waiting for them to arrive or waiting for them to leave. It's just never easy. It's too bad things went badly at your last visit. If you need to talk remember we're always here Mari.