No he isn't disabled. And he works makes lots compared to me. He just choses to spend it on rental houses. That he has had for a long time. That aren't doing as well know as they were.

But the thing is. That instead of that being our deductible.

Its 500 a person. I hit my deductible in February. Derrick hit his in probably February too, or close. My husbands was hit somewhere in May or June.

Then to top it off this year for the third time I think, I hit the maximum we
pay for me, 1500.00 out of pocket. Just for me. So thats the 2000.00.

That doesn't cover Derrick's he is over 1000.00 now. And My husband
well suffice to say, he is close to 700.00 I think.

Its just been a rough medical year. He lets me pay the medical bills, thinks I have enough money in my accounts that we have together to cover them.

I have tried talking to him, he doesn't listen.

So I'll get them paid, and then become a hermit. And hope I can just get enough to take care of Derrick.

Donna

That is a lot of money to have to come up with....but the alternative is unthinkable.
thank god we have insurances though.
I work about 3/4 time myself....couldn't really work full time nor a regular job with the way that I am.
bizi

[QUOTE=Dmom3005;158271Heehee, I feel lots better just talking about it. Even to the point of making him look so bad. He isn't really that bad most the time. Its just that he was raised to look like a poor person, and really his parents had money.[/QUOTE]

Hi, Donna,

Money is hard to talk about and even when you do, people are not always reasonable.

I learned a lot from watching Suzi Orman (sp).
Yeah, she is annoying, but her first books/shows were about being open about money, not being ashamed to talk about what you make, what you owe, . . . I learned a little bit. Mostly I learned that I have deep emotional issues with money.


It sounds like you have a plan.
Good luck.

Mari

Well I can honestly say, I really appreciate all you guys have given this weekend. I set it all out, but still can't tell what all is on the credit cards.

I just will take them down and not tell him. But that will work.

He is scared I guess that he will get laid off soon, ugh we need that one again right now. Seems he is expecting at the most a month of work.
Which we have done this before and can do it again. So that is life.

I wont wait this time though. Last time I waited to put Derrick on free lunches and to take advantage of some of the things he can have.

I just don't know a way to get medicaid for him. We will just have to watch
his insurance. Ugh, I'm so mad at the county right now, 5 or more years
ago, they lost his medicaid waiver. Or he would have back up insurance.

And we wouldn't be looking at finding 600.00 a month at some point.

Donna

That does sound frustrating Donna.
((((HUGS)))))
bizi