I hope that this doesn't make you upset with me for bringing this up....
I am only thinking about you.
((((HUGS))))
bizi

nooooooooooooooooooooo
 

i am with bizi.

same track, more hardline.

you said many things about him which, IMHO, i don't see changing. that is part of the game... they say they will change... they even seem to... for a while. i want you to go back and read your old posts. i hope he isn't playing a guilt/loyalty card on you. but regardless.

if i maybe downright harsh, call it tough love? for your safety and general wellbeing in every sense of the word... my take is: get out. get out, away and don't look back.

you can't control him living nearby, but you can can question your willingness to see him, and please do. you can control how close you get.

please please talk to your DV counselor.

love and much much worry.

~ waves ~ :hug:

I know I said a lot of things, and I meant them too.

As I said we talked until 4am in the morning, and got everything out in the open.

He knows - all the cards are on the table now, so this is his 2nd chance, if it doesn't work out, it will be over for good.

I appreciate everyone's concern, and I know exactly what you all mean.

I see my DV counsler soon.

Love y-all........................Nikko:grouphug:

:hug: just take care of you nikko. keep yourself the top priority.

we love you and care.

I am doing that......I have to be first, cannot take anymore from anyone.

My ex-husband did too much of a real bad thing to me, that I will never ever forget.


Nikko:grouphug:

I know y-all probably think I am making another mistake, and maybe I am.

I just want y-all to try to understand what I am doing is just something I have to do.

Please don't think any less of me. I am in DV counseling still and that keeps me in check, and I see red flags right away.

I don't want to lose any of you as my friends.

Hugs, Nikko:grouphug:

these are things that will not change over night...you are right you deserve to live better...and that is why the red flags all came up.
You will never lose our support.
We care about and only want what is best...but ultimately it is your life and you get to live it.
WE all have our doubts and areas in our lives that need attention...
I certainly have my issues.
thinking of you today.
((((HUGS))))
bizi

Nikko

Follow your heart, but please listen, to your mind.

Sincerley goog luck, but be opened minded.

David:hug:

We all just think the world of you, want the best for you.

And were going to stand behind you no matter what. But you
will probably be reminded many times to be very very careful.

Thats just what friends are for.

Donna

no judge, no jury, just caring honesty
 

Nutshell bizi. lovely.

Nikko, we just want what's best for you, and are outside of a situation you are inside of. our perspectives are limited, and we are not you, nor in your shoes. Goodness knows i have made some huuuuuuge mistakes. it happens.

what we think - or fear, really - is that you will be hurt again. i for one don't want to be a "yes-man" to you, just for politeness.

we are here for you period. not to judge you. to suggest and remind and comfort. we will rejoice with you or cry with you, as things go... but we will not judge or reject you or think less of you.

also try not to judge yourself. You are doing the best you can. You are keeping up the counseling. You are opening your eyes and that is more than a task, it is a process, and it is hard work. I admire you for keeping up with this. This is one way in which you are already taking care of yourself.

another precious nugget:
a tender hug and best wishes

~ waves ~