Highhatsize

By dealing with this traumatic time, with dignity compassion and with true love. Your girlfriend would be pleased with the way you have organised her belongings, held in this life.

The wonderful thing is that the memories she left behind are yours to keep forever, and will never be discarded..occassionaly hidden deep inside your mind, but open to access and reminice whenever you so desire.

Empathay was left behind for you, use this rare human emotion to good effect, which no doubt you will..........

My sincere condolences for your loss


David

Dear Highhatsize,
So glad that that par tof this process is behind you now.
Wonder if you could do some journalling write what ever you want to remember down in a special book, You may find great comfort in your writings a year or longer from now.
YOu are such a good writer, you could even jsut print out here what you have written about her.
thinking of you
bizi

My condolences.

befuddled2

Dear Highhatsize,

A year and a half ago the woman I had adopted as my mother for the past 20+ years died and her biological daughter and I spent about six weeks going through the stuff she had collected in the house she had moved into 18 years earlier.

We didn't have to get rid of major furniture because the house was staying in the family. But we had to go through her collections of stuff from garage sales, after Christmas sales, crafts, hobbies, paper work and financial records, clothes, jewelry, books, . . .
We took our time, spending about six weekends.

It was hard work but we knew that what we were doing was part of the grieving process and would help with healing later. And yes, the two of us cursed and joked about her collections. We had lots of time to remember stories.


This is all to say, "I hear you."

I hope that your good memories will keep you going.
Mari

Thinking of you.

You are in my thoughts and prayers.


Nikko

I can relate to what you went through and are still going through.

I lost my beloved husband of 34+ years in Nov. of last year. I went through some of his things while his kids were here and gave them what they wanted. I knew he would have wanted that.

I had to sell a lot of my things and pack. By April of this year, I had moved into a new place. I just couldn't deal with all of the memories in the home we had bought, remodeled to make homey and enjoyed so much together.

I still have his clothes in boxes here in my living room. I was going to have quilts made out of them for our 2 Grandson's for Christmas but I still can't do it and neither can my daughter.

This year is harder on me then last. I think because I was still in shock at Christmas last year. It hasn't gotten much easier.

They say Time heals all wounds. Let's hope that's the case. We don't forget them, we just put them in a special place in our hearts.

I think of all of the happy memories we made together. I find myself many times taking the trips in my mind that we took, doing something with our Grandson's that we loved doing. Just all good memories.

I hope things start getting easier for you as time goes by. You both were blessed to have each other.

Ada