Hi,
Well, yesterday was draining to say the least. First he was served when he went through security with my Order of Protection, which also is another injuction against him, I found out. Thank God I finally got that served.

Secondly, he did NOT get the plea, due to the fact that I had his 2 prior's. Plus a another arrest on a different thing. So, now the procsector has to review that information, and of course the defence needs a new plan of a plea. This case has taken a whole new direction now.
I do believe he is ******, walking in there thinking all was going to go his way.

He did change his address FINALLY, yet it has yet to take effect, his defence attorney told the judge that.
Also, the judge said we will get his new address when he signs for the next pre-trial. So, he doesn't live too far from here, yet it is the South side of town sort of. I don't know, I only know the street.
Once he was told about not getting the plea, they had to get him out of the court room, due to my Order.

The next pre-trial is Friday Nov. 3rd. the 4th one!!!!!!! At least I won this far.
My court advocates and I spoke with the prosecutor again, about what can or could happen on Nov. 3rd. Then he told me the only one that can protect me is MYSELF, sad huh? Those pieces of paper, only work if I get the police before he gets me.

I told the prosecutor I was afraid of him, and he said I should be. He also said this will happen again, if not to me, to the next person he gets involved with, since they don't change. As I already know.

So, that's it for now. I live in fear again for awhile. I think he will be afraid to do anything. He may even flee back East at this point. I have to call my DV case mgr today, and I see her Thursday, which I need.

That's all my mind can remember at 6am in the morning. Sorry, I can't spell at the moment, excuse my error's.

Hugs, Nikko

Dear Nikko,
You did very very well. Your preparation worked out in your favor. And thank goodness for good judges. The prosecutor sounds decent too.


How are you holding up?
Are you going to make a little celebration for yourself for getting this far?
mari

Hi Mari,

Yes, my preparation thanks to my DV counsler did help the case.

No, I am not going to celebrate yet, don't want to jinx myself.

It's only one small step, and it all could backfire, well I really don't know that.

I really hate court, I did breakdown at the end, (he was gone) and it was just me and the pros. and my 2 court advocates, because of the fact, I mentioned about me being the only one who can protect myself, etc

It's scary. He also told me a Order was served one morning, and that night the girl was dead. Makes you really think hard about what can and does happen.

I am trying to move into a 2 br here in my complex for me and my mom, at least he wouldn't know which house we were in, I could always park her car away from it. I am on a waiting list, our lease doesn't run out until the end of April. They said maybe January one would be available though.

This 3br is too much money for just me and my mom and we are struggling.

All I can do now is pray, and keep up with my court advocates, pros. and DV counsler.

Hugs, Nikko

((((((Nikko)))))),



I'm glad yesterday went comparatively well for you. One step at a time.

I was married to a guy that was very dangerous. I didn't know any of that until I tried to leave him.

Make sure you keep your cell phone with you. Let your neighbors know that he is not supposed to be on the property at all (my neighbor was the one that told me he was going into my place when I was at work). And stay smart.

When he hooks up with someone else, he'll let you go

Re: the rent. Can you and your Mom get a Section 8 certificate?? Would that help??

I'm proud of you, ((((((N)))))). You're doing something that's very difficult and you're staying focused. Good job.

How's your Mom doing through all of this??

Stay safe. Stay strong. Your life is going to be much better when you get past this part. BIG HUGS (and love).

Barb

my heart goes out to you...you are unbelievably amazing....i know you will get through this. I keep on thinking that your dogs will also protect you even though that might be far flung. It would be so wonderful if he did move back east. I hope you have faith in God and can put your horrendus burden on the great unknown's shoulders...please please please keep on posting...
I do believe in miracles....I do believe that there are greater plans that we as humans can't see...but later realize....I am sorry the legal system moves so slowly but at least it moves. It sounds as if you are in wonderful hands now.
Keep the faith! You yourself have been doing so incredibly spectacularly well...I applaud you
Bobby

Thank you all too for all your support.

I am just so tired. Feeling depressed, I think everything is just getting to me, even though I made progress. I know it makes no sense, but I found myself in many tears today, until I layed down to rest.

My order of protection is good for 1 year, which is great. My mom is doing okay, she is feeling for me, as I can see. I know her nerves are bothering her too. I must say at 72 she would do anything in her power if he comes here.

I always carry my cell phone and now the Order too. My neighbors/friends here know, since it happened at the pool, bad news travels fast.

He is no longer on the lease, and the leasing company will not give him a key and he is not supposed to be in the complex AT ALL.

It is not a locked area, so that doesn't help.

I guess I am depressed over the entire saga, plus it has dragged on since July. But I had to do what I did yesterday. Then I thought, OMG did I do the right thing, I only made him more angry I figured.

What can I say my BP is rearing itself in depression, question of actions and sadness.

Hugs, Nikko