Nikko,
Just remember, that you do the best you can. Repeat the truth, honest free flowing reccolection, the facts will support themselfs. There will be closure for this part of the ordeal. Finality over thee charges will give peace of mind over it in a few days. I know that knot, crushing tightness, leading up to the hearing and going through it. But, carry any streangth that we have to be strong outside, even if you have butterflies inside.

The judges hear tis all the time, they should know how to enforce things, and protect you. I feel it with the DV thre to help all will be great. The past history of this man is his own worse enemy!

I was on the other end when a sucky female judge did not give the true judgement or outcome and I actually collapsed from an asthma atttack over it,

BUT, I did go on, left it go, I made a plan of action because I knew that he eventually will violate!

Our strong support and prayers are there for you, you have a DV worker, take deep breaths from the tummy!

If you have an ativan, xanax, or valium you take , take it right before the hearing...or green tea, warm bath, dress nice, speak well,
You will be fine!
love to you
Di

He too, has a female judge and a female public defender.

So, it looks like the odd's are in HIS favor. Because he is a liar, manipulator, and has that charisma about him, makes me ill.

I always dress nice, and speak well as long as I can take my Klonapin prior to court. I don't want to have a shaky voice or cry.

God only knows what will happen. God only knows if I will make it till Friday, and if I do, well I don't know how I will react to anything.

Going back to my hole, I feel safe there.

Nikko

Nikko,

I hear you. Hugs to you for Friday. Just think of it as a stepping stone to getting on with your life. Sometimes we may get tripped up by stumbling on a stone but in the long run things will be better.

befuddled2

Nikko, hang in there. It will be over soon, but I'm sure the waiting is killing you. I have a good friend going through the same thing right now. Don't get hard on yourself. You don't have to do anything you don't feel like. No one is going to judge you. Keep in touch. I always enjoy reading your posts.

Hi, Nikko,
Waiting stinks big time.
I hear you.
Mari

Thanks everyone, I appreciate all your support more than you know.

I do not have to answer to his public defender. Since it is the state vs him, because I was such a mess and afraid to press charges.

I only have to talk/answer to my prosecutor, and give my input. I suppose I will have to answer to the judge if asked.

Yet, my court advocate can for me, but I would have to have it written down, and I can't do that, since I do not know what or if she will ask me anything.

I will be busy today, which is good, and tomorrow the DV counsler, which is good.

I agree BF2 that I should have an appt. ready for Monday, because I don't know how I will feel. I will do that tomorrow when I see my DV counsler.

On Friday it isn't until 2pm my time, I so wish it was at 9am, so I could get up and just get ready and go.

Hugs, Nikko

I am sooooooooooooooooooooooooo AFRAID

have you considered asking an advocate from the women's shelter to go with you just for moral support? someone to hold your hand and keep you focused until its time? It might help.

How are you today?
Bobi