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11-28-2008, 02:50 PM | #4 | |||
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We are not responsible for other people. As you know, I struggle with this too. And we do not need to compare ourselves to Christ. I do struggle with feeling responsible and I need to let that go. I don't think that is the same thing as quilt. I also struggle with control -- but less so now that I used to. I used to feel a need to have some say in other people's lives. Now I am too worn out for that. Let them manage. First of all, I believe that those of us with BP (and other stuff that comes with it) should be given more of a free ride than normies. And if they don't want to give the free ride, then we should should take it. I help people in ways that I can. Sometimes, that means I pray for them. That's the best I can do most times. If a job or a task or a person is interfering with my ability to get well, then later for them. This is one way I look at it: if doing those things you don't like with that person helped send you over the edge, could you call upon that person later for meaningful help? I go out of my way for hubby sometimes (not always) even if I am not up to. But I know that afterwards, he can help me and he will. But I try (stilling learning) not to go out of my way for something / someone that can't recipricate. I only have so much of me to go around and I need to spend that focus and that energy on hubby and me. My world is thus very small. But my stabilty is fragile. I want to live. That is my goal. When I do something I think about how that particular task will help me stay alive. I really don't think that most normies live this close to how much work it takes to stay alive. Ok. This is not making sense. I'm not ok. But I did want to post. =-=-=-=-=-=-=-=- I think that guilt is very hard to UN-learn and we are taught it in childhood. I don't have much guilt. I am thankful for that. So I have no suggestions on how to free oneself of guilt. Mari |
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