BF - it is the hardest thing to prove when someone is verbally or mentally and emotionally abusing you, because there is no proof, they are not there to hear it. It's not fair, but it sure is a warning, of what is to come, of course we don't want to believe that at the time.

I think only if the verbal abuse becomes a loud argument is when the police will actually step in if called and you were afraid of him and told the police that or he threatened you.

As the prosecutor told me I am the only one that can protect myself, nice huh, so I have to be on guard at all times, because he didn't get jail, even though he could of killed me if that bottle or the cement hit my head just so.
It was more like attempted murder than DV. But then again I was his wife, but he was stupid this past time, he did it in front of a pool full of people.

He's in the poop until April of 2008, but he is still out and about, can't come near me, but what about the next woman he may get involved with, she will be clueless, and he is smooth, a master at his art. God help her, because only 1 percent of these men change after the counseling, probation, etc. Pretty sad fact.

Ok, I will shut up, or I will go on too much.

Hugs, Nikko

Hi Nikko,

I am my husband's 4th wife and from what I hear, he abused all the others too so I know mine will never change. As soon as I can save the money to file for divorce I plan to. Sometimes like on the weekends when everyone is busy with their families and I get lonely without one, I'll forget just how bad my life with my husband was. It's poems like this one and post responses like yours just now that set me straight. Thank you.

befuddled2

Dear Nikko,

Dear Befuddled2,

You two will come out the other side better than when you went in.
Hold on and keep faith in your future.

Mari

hugs to you dear nikko.....
((((HUGS)))))
bizi

Nikko,
It makes me so sad to think that you live with the fear that it sounds like you do. I hope your DV counselor is a knowledgeable person who is helping you gain the self esteem you need to KNOW that you did nothing to deserve what you are going through.
The poem is so powerful, but I hope you do not look at it as your future.
I will be pray for you to get the help you need and learn to love yourself again.
I was also glad that you mentioned men in your post. There are many abused men out there but they are so afraid to come forward because they fear it will be looked at as a sign of weakness.
I wish they knew that it is a sign of strength.
Many prayers sent to you.
Be safe,
Judy

you had said you needed to keep this poem in your mind... it was about to fall off the page... so here's a bumpity bump for you.

do please write. and also if you'd rather let the thread drop just say the word and i will delete this post and it will automatically drop back down.

i hate that you are living in fear. one day at a time. feed yourself. rest. keep grounded any way you can.

~ waves ~ of cosmic prayer and lots of gentle hugs.

Thanks, Waves......I do appreciate it being bumped. Not just for me, but for anyone going through any type of abuse.


Hugs, Nikko

time for a bump again

Yes, time for a bump again for sure.

Nikko-

Hang in there! I don't know what to say, except I think alot of women have had experiences with DV, I did not know yours got to this level.

I think you are such a strong person to be able to deal with this the way you have been, even if you don't think so.

Hugs, A