WEll my new therapist told me that " I need to love myself"...
~sigh
bizi

That's a hard thing to do. I still have to work on it. I like myself better now. I'm proud of how you read from the book and talked with him. I don't think you should feel embarrassed.

Hugs, Doxie

PS: I probably would have felt a little embarrassed cause I'm not usually outgoing in groups.

Thanks doxie,
The reason I got embarressed was I knew what I was doing was wrong, I felt compelled to do it and did it anyway, apoligized before and after to the group for "cross talking"...I need to learn to not try to fix him, if he has been a victim at his life his whole life how on earth do I think that I can run in a be a hero for him. It is nuts! He needs to figure out how to fix his life. It is not my job but why do I act like it is??????
This is 2 weeks in a row that I felt compelled to act and was unable to show restraint......
I hope they let me stay in the group.....
~sigh
bizi

Bizi,
It's not wrong.
It was only wrong in that particular group setting.
It is not wrong to do that.

Please do not feel bad.
You are going to get accustomed to how the group works and make adjustments eventually.

You might even decide that you don't like the group and want to look for something else.

That is ok.

Mari

Bizi,
For some of us, this is THE GOAL of therapy.
It takes a long time. . . .a VERY LOOOOOOOONG time.

Be gentle with yourself if you don't get everything exactly 100% right in a short time.

I'm learning to love myself. HA!!!
It is even hard to write that. Loving oneself is hard.

But we can make small goals and we can make progress.

I wish you lots and lots of progress.

Mari

I take full responcibility for my faults, I have been weak and am not functioning right....I don't have normal communication skills and am trying to be honest as I can here in this forum. These are my issues.
That is what we do best, support each other and I appreciate the support that you have shown me.
I think this forum is different then perhaps other forums, we are a small/close bunch and so we get into the nitty gritty as we feel comfortable with each other.
I some ways Mari, I have come to rely on your support as a friend....It has been about 10 years since I first started the boards. That is a long time.
I hope that I don't make you nervous/uncomfortable about me saying that.
You have always been able to be there, I hope that I don't burdon you.
I care about my family here.
In some ways I have more interaction with my on-line family then I do with my other family members. I can be honest here.
But maybe I need to back away and work on my relationships with my family....learn how to be more honest in real life too.
Why does it have to be so hard?
thank you
bizi

Maybe you don’t love yourself Bizi but there’s an awful lot of people here who do and I for one am one of your biggest admirers.