He rode it for like half an hour today! I am so tickled he loves it, he nearly FLIPPED it a few times but hopefully he's learning NOT to do that, I think it scared him a bit. The great news is it's now in the garage and OUT of the living room! That was a big bummer. That it had to stay in here until we moved things around out there. Things are looking up. Well at least for Jackie with regard to getting to ride that trike finally.

Things aren't so rosy between me and his father. He said if I can't keep him off the doors (jackie will bang on doors) he's gonna call his dad and leave and NOT come back, so we're back to that kind of crap. I just hate ultimatums and I told him so, but he still dropped them like it was nothing. I don't think it's gonna work out after his surgery, I have a feeling he's gonna leave and things are gonna be hard on me and Jackie alone, for as long as I can have him with me that is, if he starts acting up I won't be able to keep him with me and will have ot go to mom's.

I just have a feeling things will go south Thursday when he's awake after the surgery. At least Jackie will have summer school that day and won't be home til 1:30 pm. And I got respite here from 1:30 til whenever, maybe even 8pm, doesn't matter, I will be able to keep the respite person here as long as I need them and I pray that's enough to keep Jack here, if not, oh well. I will be able to know I did my best. I won't be around for a few days next week, Wednesday is his surgery and weds. til probably Monday I will be missing from the board. Thank god I see my tdoc tuesday BEFORE all this.

Dear Pam,

I'm really glad Jackie is having such fun with his tricycle.

I wish you well regarding things with Jack.

~ waves ~

I know. I just can't stand this I can't get over how easily he said he could chuck away everything this morning. I just cannot imagine what goes through his mind at times like that...

dear pam,
I am sorry that jack once again is giving you grief and not treating you well, I really hate to hear that.
I am sorry for you.
(((((HUGS))))
great about the trike!
beth

Thanks Beth, I really hate that things are just like this right now, instead of being able to lean on my shoulder he's pushing me away. I don't know what to do but go with the flow and deal with any fallout that might be coming. I really am tired of this crap though, I just want time to heal and move on away from this situation and if he makes good on his ultimatum then that is exactly what I will do. Won't mean I'll be happy since I don't think I can keep Jackie here with me. And I won't have a car...It's gonna mean I lose my Housing voucher too. It's gonna really hurt me more then help me, but I can't take it anymore.

Glad that Jackie has something to get physical exhaustion with. He will have long days of enjoyment.

My dh gave me an ultimatium of De's cats go or he goes. I told him OK. He didn'e leave though
Now every day he walks out of the bedroom, snifs and starts about the litter. so he thinks changing tatics will work. I told him he is not workingStartto contribute, to put down the baking soda, scope the poop and run a vacuum is easier for him with nothing to do.

So my ultimatium is help with the situation or I will pack his things for him.

The cats leaving is not an option, dh leaving is his option. We have spent about 30 years together, I would give it up to have a peaceful heart if he can not give me one.

I pray for a peaceful resolution for you,
di

I hear ya, I would keep the cats too, no question! I don't know what this week holds but I have a feeling it's not gonna be easy this week and it's going to be hard to get through it regardless of what happens, I know I'll be all right. That's the bottom line and I need to remember it when Jack tries to make me anxious purposely because he's bored. He has been taunting me lately with 'Are you ready for this?' and other things. It's really super annoying and I am ready to be over with this nonesense.

pammie, do what ever you need to do.
this is your life and there is no dress rehearsal.
(((((((HUGS))))))
beth

I will Beth, I have been preparing for this kind of an outcome for a long time, so we'll see what happens. We went to the pool yesterday and had a blast. I don't know what we'll be able to do with ourselves with no car if Jack leaves and takes it, but we'll get around-IF I am able to care for the kiddo that is. A big if...

I hope I can get through it without too much upheaval. *sigh*

Hi,
I see that today is Monday and surgery is Thursday.
Surgery maybe be a surprise to him.
He does not know yet how he will respond.
M.