Oh, Danika.

I almost missed your post because you did not put it in the New Members Threads, but I am so glad I found it.
First, I am sorry about your hubby, the accident and your struggle. But be reassured, it can be perfectly normal to crash into Depression after one has been stressed out on an adrenaline high for so long. I saw it with my ex after an accident I had in '90.
The goal now is to get you well - untreated Depression rarely goes away, and it feeds on itself.
You are clearly in no position to talk to hubby about this yet. Do you have parents, a best friend you can confide in as a FIRST step? The next step is to see your Dr. This is not a sigh of weakness any more than going about a persistent cough would be.
It may be you simply need a few sessions with a trained Counsellor, perhaps some meds - I am not in a position to, nor would I try to, analyse things. Perhaps something more is needed.
The point is, it is clear you are the focus of your family, and you need to be strong and at your mental best for your own sake as well. You have made a great start by joining this Forum, like-minded people with all kinds of problems pull together.
Might I suggest you pop over to the Sanctuary for Spiritual Support,, or Depression Forums where we can all expand on this, vent, lean on each other, heal.

Dave.

Thanks for the wonderful response. Much appreciated. Yes, I am new to navigating to such sites and should have posted elsewhere. I will take more time to get the ins and outs and search out other forums more pertinent to my "condition". I have read many of your posts and your heart is gold. Thank-you.

D.

Danika,
I am new here myself - still can't do attachments, am wobbly about links. Yet this Forum is as comfortable as an old sweater already thanks to the lovely members.
Don't worry about Posting in 'wrong' Forums, you will find support everywhere - it's just members with similar problems check out more relevant Forums first.
While I hope your visits here give you all you need, I hope the neccessity is as short as possible.

Dave.

Its hard being a caregiver. I totally get it. My daughter suffers from PCS and also has good days and bad days. I take it one day at a time. Did you look into support groups from the Brain Injury Alliance. They have been a great source of support. Hang in there!

Hi, I'm new too. My husband suffered a TBI 3 months ago so we're still trying to adjust to it. He wakes up every morning and doesn't remember anything that has happened since a few days after the accident. He still thinks it's June. His brain hits some kind of reset button when he goes to sleep and erases everything he's seen and done during the day. That's right people, I'm actually LIVING 50 First Dates - and it is not fun. The mood swings and temper tantrums with me I can handle but when he gets around our kids and does that stuff, I make him leave the room. It's been a hard few months but I'm slowly seeing some improvements and that's encouraging.

I've been married for a year and a half, and my husband's TBI was only correctly diagnosed a few months before our wedding. I didn't know what I was getting in to and I can't help but feel lied to. He didn't know about his vistibular imbalance either, because for a decade he just thought he had migraines, gritted his teeth, and plowed forward without properly seeking medical intervention.

Now he is finally addressing the underlying issue with medical care and physical therapies, which is good and I need to give him credit for doing so. The problem I am struggling with is that it feels like he uses his TBI as an excuse for bad behavior. Rationally, I understand that the TBI is a real reason, not an excuse. But on days like today when he leave a pile of laundry on the couch for days, but can go out drinking all day to celebrate Liverpool, I have a hard time understanding why TBI makes it so hard to do chores, but doesn't stop him from having fun. I get that today was a big big day in sports, and that he deserves to have a normal life celebrating something that he loves. I also know that he is paying double for the fun now, and very likely all day tomorrow, because of the TBI. The cost of fun is much higher for him. How do I not feel angry and resentful for leaving me with the sole responsibility of taking care of house and home, because he used all his energy making his choices with full knowledge of how much recovery would follow?

He budgeted the time/energy to have fun, but didn't budget the time/energy to finish his chore. I feel like I live with a child. Is this normal for TBI?

Hi Chien Vert

Welcome to NeuroTalk .

I am sorry to read about your husband.

The TBI/PCS forum here is very active.

I am sure that if you post there you will get lots of support and good ideas from other members.

All the best.