No one warned you..I'm a sneaky monkey too.

I do have to say...It looks might cute.

Welcome to the forum my little quackymoose.

QM,

Hello, I'm Teresa. I'm sorry that you are going through this, some days/weeks can be so hard. I felt like I was reading my own words. I know exactly how you are feeling, been crying intermittently for three days. Jeff is lucky that we like his doctors and they listen to us. While we had to deal with the work comp docto'rs it was a nightmare. Unfortunately I can't offer any great wisdoms. The best thing I have found is to find a place I won't be disturbed and just let it all out, haven't had time for that yet this week. It's also important to have a good friend to talk to. Still there are times that this is so overwhelming. Don't be hard on yourself or feel guilty. This is a lot to deal with and without a good team of doctors it's so much harder. Keep searching till you find the doctor that you both are happy with. Do either of you have family close by? I have begun handing off small errands to our 2 oldest boys, and at the roughest points asked my mother-in-law to cook dinner for Jeff and the boys on nights I worked. Small things sometimes make the biggest differance. Good luck in your search for a better doctor. Hope to see you around the forum.

Teresa

I'm glad you found this forum, QM.

I would remind you to encourage your DH to ask for small things that would comfort him. Sometimes when a caregiver cannot change huge things-like the amount of pain-there are small comforts they can help provide that can make so much difference in how well the person in pain can cope and will also help you feel like you have helped.

Your DBF is lucky to have you.

Hugs to you, Grandma Sue

Thank you all for welcoming me, setting up my avatar, that was nice surprise and just encourging me.

I haven't asked my doctor for anti depressants yet, I was on them years ago from my previous marriage. I am nt sure I want to go tht route again; but I will talk to my doctor soon.

I definatley think that finding this message board and talking with the ladies from RSDHOPE I have found some help.

MIL's do that?

Sorry, I couldn't help myself. I've asked my MIL several times to help and she has some reason or another to not. Even just sitting with her son and maybe cooking something for him.

I am really lucky. My MIL would do anything I asked if there is any way possible. She does frustrate me because I have to ask for help and she doesn't just offer but at least I know all I have to do is ask. The hard part is that I'm very independent and proud so it was hard for me to ask for help in the begining. I also found it was hard for her to see her son going through this. I bought a couple of books on RSD and gave them to her to read. Since then she's been much more understanding. Also in November she was in a car accident and broke her neck and back. So I took care of her and Jeff. I would cook dinner at her house every day and we would all eat there then I would go to work or we would go home and Jeff's step-dad would do the clean up. We've all learned to work closely as an extended family. She's recovered now and back to work so that load has lifted.

I'm sorry you aren't so lucky. How much does she know about RSD? Were they close before he developed this?


Teresa

PS...It probably helped when one day I was having a very bad day and called her over to my house to take her son back to live with her because I couldn't take it any more. That's usually enough to make a mother think twice about the situation (help out or take him back?)

LMBO "help out or take him back"

Well my bf's mom is deceased, I never had the chance to meet her. HIs dad is local and has so much on his plate right now.

I too am fiercley independant and "think" I can handle everything. But since I am the only one able to work (I'm not complaining) I feel I need an outlet. Coming here has improved my mind immensley, just knowing there are other caregivers and sufferers willing to help.

I have 2 older kids living with us that help out daily. They are amazing.

There are days I just feel so overwhelmed I come home and don't want to cook at all. I thought I was lazy, but maybe just overwhelmed.

I can't say thank you enough.

Jim has ms. He's had it since 1988. She knows all about it. They were close at one time.