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03-23-2007, 07:04 AM | #1 | |||
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Just use your chronic illness instead of Bipolar Disorder.
It's All in Your Head And Other Thoughtless Things Said! How often have you been accused of whining or being a hypochondriac? Do people think you are just a complainer, an attention-seeker, when depression makes it difficult for you to cope with daily life? Are you told that "there is absolutely nothing wrong with you"? Do people tell you to "get over yourself"? I am sure that everyone with bipolar disorder have had those completely thoughtless things said which we can quote verbatim five, ten and even thirty years down the road. Sometimes those with whom we interact can be narrow-minded and cutting. And, for every person who says something deliberately hurtful to a person with mental illness, there are a dozen who say things thoughtlessly or out of ignorance. Unfortunately – regardless of intent - words wound, fester and scar. The following is a short list of things people say that are often intended to be helpful, but are actually tactless. Perhaps these will better equip you to respond to the thoughtless comments and to illustrate the need for each of us to better think through our word choices.
Kahn, D.A., Keck, P.E., Perlis, R.H., Otta, M.W., & Ross, R. (2004). Treatment of Bipolar Disorder: A Guide for Patients and Families. From www.bipolar.about.com
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. Enjoy when you can, and endure when you must. -- Goethe Diagnoses: FM, Sciatica, Rosacea, Piriformis Syndrome, SI joint disfunction, Joint Facet Syndrome L3-L5, Pinched Nerve (somewhere on the left side), Depression, Anxiety and Bipolar II . |
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03-28-2007, 03:20 AM | #2 | ||
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no one knows how you feel unless they've been there. And if you know in your own heart that your sick, then don't pay attention to them. When people do this to you, pray for them, pray God will put so much conviction on there hearts. People can be cruel to the sick, even family. You just hold your head high and dont worry about what they say, because you reap what you sew, so they better quit picking on you.
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03-28-2007, 02:07 PM | #3 | |||
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I go through that too. No one does know how we feel and I sure hope I don't make folks feel bad when I reply to posts. Got to be more careful how I say things or what I say. That is why sometimesI really wish I could just lurk here on the forums. Tend to have a "Silver Foot" in my mouth. Sure can't erase a dumb reply.
I'm always so glad when others post something wise and helpful. Froggie |
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04-29-2007, 06:55 PM | #4 | |||
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I know what you mean. I just don't tell anyone anything anymore.
Last edited by Wiix; 04-29-2007 at 08:48 PM. |
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04-30-2007, 11:23 AM | #5 | |||
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I have people in my life that i just dont discuss my pain problems with.
For this reason!! I have this forum and my daughter. I try not to talk to my girl too much about what goes on-yet she is the one who understands and helps me the most when i need it. I dont even have to tell her-she just knows-even when i'm trying to do things i shouldnt-she yells at me and does those things for me{when she catches me..lol} I just dont know what i would do w/out her!!!!!! Even if i am asked:how are you today-I will say i'm good! I dont bother trying to convince anyone anymore. I know what i feel is real!!!
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. Kellie . Everybody has problems. Some we create for ourselves, some others create for us. How we react to those problems is up to the individual. Eleanor Roosevelt stated, "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." We must control our reaction to our problems or perceptions. Otherwise, they will own you. |
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04-30-2007, 11:35 AM | #6 | |||
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This MAY sound kind of Nasty and Negative but someone said THIS to me once.
"You know half the people are glad your having a rough time of it, the other half really just don't care." That changed me hearing that and that's why I just keep my mouth shut now. Last edited by Wiix; 04-30-2007 at 12:48 PM. |
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04-30-2007, 11:38 AM | #7 | |||
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04-30-2007, 12:40 PM | #8 | |||
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. Enjoy when you can, and endure when you must. -- Goethe Diagnoses: FM, Sciatica, Rosacea, Piriformis Syndrome, SI joint disfunction, Joint Facet Syndrome L3-L5, Pinched Nerve (somewhere on the left side), Depression, Anxiety and Bipolar II . |
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05-01-2007, 03:05 PM | #9 | |||
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Remember That Life Is Short!!!" break the rules, Forgive quickly, Love truly, laugh uncontrolably, And never regret anything that made you smile |
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05-07-2007, 11:14 AM | #10 | ||
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I have been subject to a lot of grief because of the way I walk. (Severe neuropathy in the soles of both feet). I overheard a senior citizen saying "Why would anybody want to walk like that?"), and I was stopped on my way into the casino once and asked how much I had had to drink. I answered that I do not drink. I was told that someone had reported that I was walking funny and was stumbling. I answered that I had been electrocuted. My pain causes me enough grief without thoughtless people making my life more difficult. I have thought about walking with a cane (It would not make walking any easier for me), I thought that by using a cane, at least I would not be harrassed by people noticing me having difficulty walking.
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