Chronic Pain Whatever the cause, support for managing long term or intractable pain.


advertisement
 
 
Thread Tools Display Modes
Prev Previous Post   Next Post Next
Old 12-11-2012, 07:21 PM #1
CRPSsongbird CRPSsongbird is offline
Member
 
Join Date: Nov 2012
Posts: 407
10 yr Member
CRPSsongbird CRPSsongbird is offline
Member
 
Join Date: Nov 2012
Posts: 407
10 yr Member
Default CRPS is killing my relationship, I need advice.

MY fiance and I are arguing all the time.
He says that since he had to wait 3 years
waiting for carpal tunnel to be diagnosed and
surgically repaired that he knows exactly what
I'm feeling and that I just need to "deal" with it.
And not to "put on a face"? I guess I look like
I'm in pain........I tried telling him he doesn't
know exactly what I'm feeling or how much I can
handle because he's not me.
I just don't think he gets the level that CRPS goes to.

I did give him info on CRPS he doesn't think I have a "syndrome".
I told him 2 different doctors agree with the diagnosis. With him
I seriously don't know what to do. He has pain issues as well ie
herniated C6 & C7 in lower neck. And I still do things, however
slowly,like try to clean as best I can. I even dish up his dinner and
bring it to him. It's hard to lift or carry anything w/o pain though.
And he literally said today He's worried because and I quote "What if something bad happened to me, how could you take care of me?"
He also said I need to learn how to deal with this with no medication....
......I don't see how this is going to last with that kind of thinking.
I tried explaining if I try to have -0- medication I would end up crying
most of the time. He still just said you just have to "cope" with it.....and kept turning it to HIS needs.I'm at a loss of what I can do there.
I just don't understand what else I can do. Or how to make him see,
I have actually said the words "I need you right now, even just to hold me"
And he just said "I don't want to lay down right now" and went back to playing a video game.......which I actually calculated he plays between 35-50 hours a week.

Please ANY help would be appreciated...
CRPSsongbird is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
"Thanks for this!" says:
mg neck prob (12-18-2012)
 


Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off


Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
Surgeon thinks I might have CRPS - seeking advice cloverthistle Reflex Sympathetic Dystrophy (RSD and CRPS) 11 11-20-2012 11:17 AM
Advice - CRPS/RSD Spring - Electrical injury CRPStweet Reflex Sympathetic Dystrophy (RSD and CRPS) 2 08-28-2012 08:44 PM
Relationship advice? greenfrog Traumatic Brain Injury and Post Concussion Syndrome 1 07-13-2011 09:48 PM


All times are GMT -5. The time now is 04:07 PM.

Powered by vBulletin • Copyright ©2000 - 2024, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.

vBulletin Optimisation provided by vB Optimise v2.7.1 (Lite) - vBulletin Mods & Addons Copyright © 2024 DragonByte Technologies Ltd.
 

NeuroTalk Forums

Helping support those with neurological and related conditions.

 

The material on this site is for informational purposes only,
and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment
provided by a qualified health care provider.


Always consult your doctor before trying anything you read here.