[Lara]

I would prefer to type "thanks for this" or "thankyou for that" rather than press the button in response to something someone else has said or done, so if you don't see my name on those strange little posts saying someone or other has thanked you for your message, then it doesn't mean I don't thank you.

Is it ok for me to say that I think it's rather odd? I've never seen anything like that on a forum before.

Is it ok for me to say that I think it sounds a tinsy tad gushy? I'm not saying you're all gushy, I'm just saying that it would feel that way to me if I keep pressing the "thanks" button all day and all night. Some things can go unsaid. I read one of Di's posts somewhere and I forget exactly what she said on it now, but I agreed with her and want everyone to know, that if you don't get a big thankyou post from Lara, then it doesn't mean I don't care or anything like that at all.

phew... thanks. lol

[DiMarie]

I have had a couple hours to look at it and if there is a way a person can turn the option off would you turn mine off. I find it upseting and making me extremly anxious to look at. I am under some stress right now, need support, give support, BUT I CAN"T TAKE A RATING UNDER MY NAME! PLEASE remove mine.....

I may be so in the minimal few, but honestly i am finding it upseting.

[kimmydawn]

Originally Posted by Lara

I would prefer to type "thanks for this" or "thankyou for that" rather than press the button in response to something someone else has said or done, so if you don't see my name on those strange little posts saying someone or other has thanked you for your message, then it doesn't mean I don't thank you.

Is it ok for me to say that I think it's rather odd? I've never seen anything like that on a forum before.

Is it ok for me to say that I think it sounds a tinsy tad gushy? I'm not saying you're all gushy, I'm just saying that it would feel that way to me if I keep pressing the "thanks" button all day and all night. Some things can go unsaid. I read one of Di's posts somewhere and I forget exactly what she said on it now, but I agreed with her and want everyone to know, that if you don't get a big thankyou post from Lara, then it doesn't mean I don't care or anything like that at all.

phew... thanks. lol

Sure it's ok to say you think it "gushy". Me? I'm a gushy kinda person. I kinda always have been. I think it's just my personality and those who know me might decribe it differently in their perceptions.

That's another reason I think it would be good if we could tailor it as I suggested. Those interested can be active and those who aren't don't have to view it other than seeing a nice "thank you" withink a thread...which is seen all the time.

Thank you, Lara.

KD

[Curious]

it's always ok for you tell how you feel. to give your opinions.
thank you lara yours and everyone's input is always appreciated.

( so i just thanked the whole forum )

[redjpwranglergirl]

I agree with Lara and DiMarie- I don't particularly like it either, but realize that others may like it and that's OK. I hope no offense is taken by my saying that! I'm like Lara, I appreciate alot that people on here do and I'm not gushy either but try to thank people openly or by PM if I appreciate something they've done- as she said, that doesn't mean that if I don't say it that I don't mean it- does that make sense? The first thought I had when I saw it was that since there are some people on forums who tend to feel like it's a contest to see how many posts they can get under their name, and some who equate a larger number posts as meaning that this person must REALLY be an authority on the subject- so, I'm wondering if some would consider these "thank yous" in the same way- as in, somebody with LOTS of thank yous must be a "saint" and someone with few or none must be unsupportive or rude....I just think it seems to be another way for those who these kinds of things are important to "keep score". I think we all deal enough as it is with people who "thank each other to death" and we might have some severe injuries on here with some patting themselves and each other on the back. I'm with Di- is there a way to opt out of this? Or, could the thank you button be left- for a quick thank you and nothing more- but no count listed under our names? Just my opinion....

[Lara]

In the vBulletin Thanks hack there should be a section that says

"Users can remove their own Thanks" but I don't know if that means we can remove our own "Thanks" or if we can remove all the Thanks: and Thanked parts from our posts

[~scrabble]

Originally Posted by Lara

In the vBulletin Thanks hack there should be a section that says

"Users can remove their own Thanks" but I don't know if that means we can remove our own "Thanks" or if we can remove all the Thanks: and Thanked parts from our posts

*waves at Lara!

I have tried out the 'thanks' button and then it shows up as:

"Members who give thanks to Wittesea for this post: ~scrabble (Today)

Remove Your Thanks"

below the post where I had clicked on the 'Thanks' button. It doesn't show visible to me on anyone else's 'thanks' posts, therefore, I think it must mean that I can decide to delete my 'thanks' for that one post at a later time.

Does that make sense? LOL

[Jaye]

I have been helping others in this forum and its predecessors for about eight years now. People have written to me privately to thank me for saving, changing, turning around, or improving their lives, but that's not why I helped them. If they had pushed a thanks button instead of talking to me in their own words, I do believe i would have thought them as superficial as the gesture. I abhor the idea of adding up thanks. In fact, I find the tallying feature downright insulting.

I can't imagine a button-push as thanks to anyone else, either.

I worry about the effects of this trivialization of human relationships on those in emotionally precarious positions. If this were a forum about, say, sparkplug collecting, my feelings would be different.

Jaye

[heyjude5050]

I have to say that I share the opinions of those who feel it may be construed as impersonal, that it may hurt the feelings of some and that it may take a few more minutes to type in a thanks, but even that shows a more concerted effort.
I like the to thank people and then let them know what exactly I am thanking them for.
That little bit of effort can make the difference in a day for many of us.
I think it is great that people like you are trying to improve the site all the time and there are people who have a difficult time typing, so it does have it's benefit, but I agree on numbers not being shown. It would look like a competition to some.
Just another opinion,
Judy

[Phillipe]

INMHO, I feel the "thank You" ratings are in poor taste. A simple thank you in a post if one so desires, is all that is necessary without the fan fare of listing who gets thanked and how many times. This is not the Neurotalk, I know. Even thanking someone via PM is showing kindness. Yes, this can be abused and become a popularity contest and frankly, I don't give a darn if I ever get thanked. I will still like you. :icon_wink: