[Doody]

Thelma, if you give her name, one of us may know where she is so that you can find out. I know of one forum that quite a few went to when they tired of the bannings at braintalk.

And I like your idea.

[kimmydawn]

Thelma,

Thank you so much for making that post and giving some of us a clearer, closer picture to the caring, concern and wonder that can, and probably will, happen at times.

I think it's a great idea as well! We could possibly have a forum that combines "hellos", "goodbyes", "passing throughs" and "caring and concerns"? Maybe we could add the word "Journeys" to your great title? Just thinking out loud basically...

You could've just posted a request for this forum, but sharing that story has added to my sight here. It's appreciated.

Regarding the name of this community, I agree there as well...when it's comfortable for all.

Again, I appreciate (on a personal level) the time, considerations, and thoughts put into this post.

KD

[Thelma]

The treatments I am referring to were those that solicitated people to spend upwards of $25,000 dollars and travel out of the country in some cases to receive these treatments.

Two lost their entire savings to go to China for one example and yet not a word of caution cam e from the moderators or John there.

I don't mean the simple talking about medications and such. these treatments meant brain surgery.

As for the site I am asking for. No I don't want a I am going for a vacation such and such a time.

I want a serious forum where if you are leaving you say so and don't leave everyone in the lurch as to lhow you or your kin are doing. One where you can come back to inform everyone as to how things are going.

The forum if not regulated will just be another chit chat and while that is not a bad concept for a forum just not in this context.

I have the phone number of the person I am talking about and I have not used it because it would only take her a minute to do this and if she doesn't want to then the topic is dead.

I just want to help someone else who will take this route to ovllivion not to have to do it.

Perhaps it could be a post only through a moderator and no responses allowed to them.

I don't know maybe I am just wistfully thinking but I do know that the years and years I was on Braintalk wwere not wasted but did leave a lot to be desired in the way I would like a site to be.

Being vocal now is the answer to the future for this site.

Guess you will know when I think everything is Kosher when I shut up lol

[kimmydawn]

I think it would be great to offer that place to members...the place that they would say goodbye and why, etc. I'd also like it combined with the other as I'd mentioned.

That said, if the forum is put into place (I can't answer that or know that it will be), that's all we can do...offer the "place". It doesn't mean to say that all members, or even a few, can or will utilize it for those purposes. It would be great if all our community friends are able to say the hellos, goodbyes, be backs, etc. (at times people don't fully recognize the impact they might have on others), but it doesn't mean that they can or will.

I think having a place to come together, share, support and every other thing we have offered to us is a true gift. It also, as in real life, can have the downers...including, but not limited to, no longer having those we've come to care for available to us as they were. I think we all take that "leap" when communicating with others.

I think your suggestion to say "goodbye" is a great thing to offer for those willing and that are in the "place" for that kind of sharing with all of the other things they're dealing with. Some (moving on willingly) might not have that kind of energy in the moment, but it would be great to know that it's there to drop back in on at any time.

KD

[Ellie]

Now because I am such a poor internet communicator

I personally think you are a great communicator, and I really like that about you and how honest you are. I think it's an amazing quality that you have!

I do find this topic to be very interesting. While I don't like to think people will leave due to moderation or other reasons, I will still agree that it would be great to have a 'check in/check out' area.

I've also lost touch with many people and it always weighs in on the back of my mind, and sometime's I have to wonder if they know how many people they left wondering, or even in a worry about them.

I would, however, love to know if there is anything that any member finds questionable regarding a moderators behavior that I, or we could change for the better. I'd feel awful if I felt like I 'ran someone off', so I am personally always up for suggestions.

You have been very open with your suggestions, and I really do appreciate that. You have pointed out some things I didn't know much about (like your ALS post), and I was very pleased to feel better educated regarding that.

Perhaps it could be a post only through a moderator and no responses allowed to them.

We have had a discussion regarding 'Anon' type posts, as well. So I think this is a good suggestion. There are some things people do not wish to post on their account name due to it being a personal topic, or something of the like. So we have been looking into finding a way for Moderators to post things on behalf of users. If you have any suggestions, that would be great!

[mrsD]

Thelma: I always enjoy your posts. I read every one!

Ellie: I am curious about your suggestion, and perhaps embrace it.
Why? Well, unfortunately, whenever I post "personal" data, I get attacked for it off forum. I won't go into detail here, but others in your admin circle can clue you in.

Thanks for the PM Ellie.

[Tricia]

Originally Posted by mrsd

Thelma: I always enjoy your posts. I read every one!

Ellie: I am curious about your suggestion, and perhaps embrace it.
Why? Well, unfortunately, whenever I post "personal" data, I get attacked for it off forum. I won't go into detail here, but others in your admin circle can clue you in.

Thanks for the PM Ellie.

Is MrsD privy to the private conversations between forum moderaters? That sounds very unethical.